She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This is impossible -- if she has feelings for you then she will not be your free prostitute!!J.kelly said:Hey DJ's need advice...
This girl I've been talking to has feelings for me, .................... How do I keep her as a f-buddy?
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.