Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is impossible -- if she has feelings for you then she will not be your free prostitute!!J.kelly said:Hey DJ's need advice...
This girl I've been talking to has feelings for me, .................... How do I keep her as a f-buddy?
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.