Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is impossible -- if she has feelings for you then she will not be your free prostitute!!J.kelly said:Hey DJ's need advice...
This girl I've been talking to has feelings for me, .................... How do I keep her as a f-buddy?
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.