You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This is impossible -- if she has feelings for you then she will not be your free prostitute!!J.kelly said:Hey DJ's need advice...
This girl I've been talking to has feelings for me, .................... How do I keep her as a f-buddy?
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.