Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
I’m GL, but not ‘model hot’.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Well...35 and 0.
- Thread starter GeezerBub
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SW15
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@GeezerBub is in Toronto, which is one of the worst metro areas in North America for men. Lots of man hating feminists are running around Toronto.
BackInTheGame78
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Toronto is a huge city...I am sure there are plenty who aren't.
GeezerBub
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Lols, oh trust me...I believe you. It's bad here...
SW15
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Every time that I think my city has a bad mating environment, which it does, I quickly think about Toronto, Washington DC, San Francisco, Portland (Oregon), and Seattle. Those cities have the reputations of having some of the worst environments for men. If things in my city are bad, I can't imagine how bad those cities are.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.