"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Waking up early is it worth it
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Have a specific plan and purpose for getting up early. Maybe you want to clean the kitchen, hit the gym and study XYZ subject. That’s fine. Pick a time that suits your goals.
Otherwise, you’ll be on SS early in the morning lol.
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First, I agree with this.
Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.
Third, what ever you do, make it consistent, make it a routine. Do the same thing every day. This will give clarity, an idea of what's ahead the next day. Before you know it you have your tomorrow planed and filled with activities until the end of the evening.
And when you get up in the morning, do as Marcus Aurelius did (read his book Meditations, considering the subject this seems to be something you are interested in):
"At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm? ""
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mitaliwebratna
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This ^
Waking up early is overrated. Getting a full night's sleep is underrated. I used to wake up at 6AM so I could get to my office at 8AM and get a head start on work. Going to bed at 10-10:30PM, I would rarely get a full 8 hours, and found that I wasn't being terribly productive at my desk pre-9AM and I would need extra coffee to get going, which would then crash me in the afternoon.
I've since started waking up at 7AM, and getting to the office at 9 fully rested, energized and alert from a full night's sleep. I am much more productive and get a lot more done. The extra hour at my desk in the morning doesn't make me get more done. The extra hour of sleep does.
Different people have different sleep requirements. I need 8 hours. Not 7, not 7 and a half. The full 8. So waking at the a$$crack of dawn is counterproductive for me. And there's no such thing as 'training' yourself to need less sleep. Sleep is precious and underrated. Be greedy with your sleep.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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This is not quite true. While getting your 7-8 hours is important, following the circadian rhythm is crucial. You sleep when it's dark, you're active during daylight.
All the miserable, sick people working night shifts is a good example of what happens when you go against nature.