Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
First, I agree with this.Why did you start a second thread on this?
Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.Been reading alot lately about getting up early life 530 or earlier just wanted to know your thoughts
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
NiceFirst, I agree with this.
Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.
Third, what ever you do, make it consistent, make it a routine. Do the same thing every day. This will give clarity, an idea of what's ahead the next day. Before you know it you have your tomorrow planed and filled with activities until the end of the evening.
And when you get up in the morning, do as Marcus Aurelius did (read his book Meditations, considering the subject this seems to be something you are interested in):
"At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm? ""
This ^Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
nice more into socartesFirst, I agree with this.
Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.
Third, what ever you do, make it consistent, make it a routine. Do the same thing every day. This will give clarity, an idea of what's ahead the next day. Before you know it you have your tomorrow planed and filled with activities until the end of the evening.
And when you get up in the morning, do as Marcus Aurelius did (read his book Meditations, considering the subject this seems to be something you are interested in):
"At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm? ""
This is not quite true. While getting your 7-8 hours is important, following the circadian rhythm is crucial. You sleep when it's dark, you're active during daylight.Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.