You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
First, I agree with this.Why did you start a second thread on this?
Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.Been reading alot lately about getting up early life 530 or earlier just wanted to know your thoughts
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
NiceFirst, I agree with this.
Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.
Third, what ever you do, make it consistent, make it a routine. Do the same thing every day. This will give clarity, an idea of what's ahead the next day. Before you know it you have your tomorrow planed and filled with activities until the end of the evening.
And when you get up in the morning, do as Marcus Aurelius did (read his book Meditations, considering the subject this seems to be something you are interested in):
"At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm? ""
This ^Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
nice more into socartesFirst, I agree with this.
Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.
Third, what ever you do, make it consistent, make it a routine. Do the same thing every day. This will give clarity, an idea of what's ahead the next day. Before you know it you have your tomorrow planed and filled with activities until the end of the evening.
And when you get up in the morning, do as Marcus Aurelius did (read his book Meditations, considering the subject this seems to be something you are interested in):
"At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm? ""
This is not quite true. While getting your 7-8 hours is important, following the circadian rhythm is crucial. You sleep when it's dark, you're active during daylight.Second, I think it's more important to get 8 hours of sleep, no matter what time you get up/go to bed.