KontrollerX
Master Don Juan
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Did she ever press charges against that piece of sh!t Penkitten?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LOL, I knew a lot of hotties that played that game. My ex still plays, she was very cute-my buddies g/f still plays, she is also a hottie. And I have met others.This all said, 99% of female are guys. also, why on earth are you flirting online?
no, she filed bankruptcy and paid for her own divorce and started over.KontrollerX said:Did she ever press charges against that piece of sh!t Penkitten?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
persistent exaction said:the wife was actually embarrassed that he was as AFC as he was. She felt sorry for him and how pathetic he was.
Either that or I play it a few hours on weekends to spend time with my brothers who live 4 hours away. Beware generalizations, you start to sound like an old man who is against that new telephone gadget young people are using nowadays.Rollo Tomassi said:Second Life, World of Warcraft, and any other MPORG are simply more Buffers to insulate guys from real rejection and supply women with the attention they constantly seek for affirmation.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well, I don't know anyone who has a lot of endgame characters and who claims it's "all social", but I suppose it's possible. In the winter having an indoor pass time can be nice.Rollo Tomassi said:I'll worry less about coming off like that than the guy playing the 70th level, Night Elf Druid telling me he plays to keep in touch with family for a "few hours" on the weekend.
Rollo Tomassi said:We all have our escapes (myself included), it's when they become more appealing, comfortable and preferable to live in than reality that the problems start. Escapes are healthy, Buffers are handicaps.
synergy1 said:.... time from partying, friends, work, sports, drinking where I love to unwind, fire up some world of Warcraft and go pvp ...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So this is never the other way around? Women are the ones in need of constant attention and affirmation?Rollo Tomassi said:Second Life, World of Warcraft, and any other MPORG are simply more Buffers to insulate guys from real rejection and supply women with the attention they constantly seek for affirmation.
You're right about MMORPGs being a buffer for guys who are only seeking an insulation from the real world. But I have a hard time believing that a woman joins something like WoW only because she seeks attention from other guys. Sure, there are probably some instances of it, but for the most part, people get engulfed in online video games because they are a vehicle for social interaction. Social interaction is what these obsessive types lack in real life.Rollo Tomassi said:Second Life, World of Warcraft, and any other MPORG are simply more Buffers to insulate guys from real rejection and supply women with the attention they constantly seek for affirmation.
If you spend a lot of time in PvP, I assumed you would recognize that.synergy1 said:I don't get it
My Bad, I gotcha now. I haven't played for a few months, so at this point, the lingo is foreign to mebigjohnson said:If you spend a lot of time in PvP, I assumed you would recognize that.
Translation: "Incoming hostiles in route to the Arathi Basin Gold Mine, we will be outnumbered, send reinforcements"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.