ThunderMaverick said:
It wasn't luck that made us find this site. There was something inside of us. Something inside every man who feels that having control over himself is imperative to his future. From what we saw in the video he wasn't in control. HE desired it. Now he knows it's there and must find a way to regain it. How he chooses to go about it is up to him.
I don't feel sorry for a man who knows he has a million different choices to make in his situation. I don't pity him at all.
He might find a place like this, even when he goes through all of the Dr. Phils and Oprahs.
Well in my case it actually was luck.
A poster from here named New Order posted a link to this place on a forum I used to moderate.
Without his link I would of never completely unplugged from the AFC Matrix.
I am with the spirit of what you are saying though in that there is something inside of those of us who come to accept this site's advice and restructure our lives to it accordingly.
However I still stick to my point that this guy is deeply lost in ignorance and though he has choices all around him any healthy choice considered will be rendered irrelevant by the peer pressure and influence of the feminist society we live in as well as his own AFC scarcity mentality.
Explanation 1: The feminist society probably programmed into him like it does many of us that a marriage should be held onto and worked through as much as possible and to hold onto the marriage at all costs, don't give up, don't be a quitter, etc. It is all made to sound good and noble because remaining in a marriage benefits the women with all the money and standard of living it keeps her in.
Explanation 2: His own AFC scarcity mentality will work against any of his thoughts about leaving her because he will have a natural but somewhat misguided empathy for the children ie the thinking its better for children to have a two parent family and while I would agree this is true and see his reasoning for this he in his AFC mindset likely wouldn't consider that a two parent family that is having an extremely bad relationship would hurt the children as much if not more than if the parents were to seperate rather than stay together for the children's sake all the while the family falls apart from within because of mommies cheating.
Furthermore his AFC scarcity mentality will work against his making a good decision for himself because he will fear not being able to get anyone else ie she is the last woman on earth that would want him he is thinking or he could be thinking it will be too hard and time consuming to get a new relationship with someone else going and that this person would not want to become involved with a single father. Also there is the humiliation of leaving the relationship and in that way oking his wifey to move on and get it on for real with her virtual lover. In his AFC thinking it would hurt him tremendously to think he is rewarding two scumbags by getting a divorce rather than the healthy thinking he should have that he is removing the cancer from his life.
In closing this man is not only ignorant of the way things are but he is suffering from a deep co-dependency and is very emotionally broken with no boundaries.
He needs an outside source to intervene and show him the way or he will most likely remain lost.
I was exactly like this guy at one point and I know that if New Order did not post that link I would of lived out my life in one destructive relationship after another without end.
So in my case I was given the information and accepted it as true and changed my life.
This guy was not given the information with which to change his life.
He has been left to the wolves and they are tearing him apart.
I maintain that only a person that receives life changing information and rejects it to continue living self destructively can be held to blame.
The guy in this video to use a Biblical analogy is very much like a sheep without a shepherd.
Even take into account the actual move "The Matrix".
Neo felt something was wrong with the world he was living in for a very long time but he never figured out exactly what it was until Morpheus appeared and gave him that opportunity and said "I can only show you the door, you are the one that has to open it".
I was shown the door by New Order and I opened it and accepted all of the life changing information on this site.
The guy in this video hasn't even been shown the door.
Thats the difference.
