Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Get some lays under your belt is the best way.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
bsthatcher said:Man, I hate peeking around the corner to this site every once in awhile to find stuff like this. Reminds me why I left.
Why in the world would you want to become MORE emotionally attached to women?
It's the emotional attachment part that sucks! You think everything is great, then BAM wake up to reality.
It's fake. And it sucks when your princess starts looking and acting like a nasty pig.
Even the "good" emotional attachment beginning sucks. You lose your focus and whatever you were working on or having fun doing starts to slack.
Get this garbage out of your head, man!
Life is GREAT when you have things under your control. And when you're emotionally attached to somebody -- you don't! It's a sickening feeling.
That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Damn straight. As I was reading the responses to this now messed up thread, it was sickening. Obviously, alot of the responses were pretty much aimed to NOT get oneitis hence all the stuff about how emotional attachment sucks. Emotional attachment only sucks when YOU'RE the only one emotionally attached aka ONEITIS. Now, what seems like the poster is trying to do is not be like a high maintenance shallow chick and find something deeper than looks. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.Columbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
Maybe so but The money you spend on your divorce i will spend on a new BMW M3 in which i will F many fine young hos while you argue with the X-wife you respected and loved sooo much....LOLColumbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not possible cause they tend to be the best looking and the ones men want to F the most...Francisco d'Anconia said:Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.
Ya, it's all the mind. Whatever you've attached to it is what you'll take with you on your approach and your body language will follow it congruently.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person,..
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.