Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Get some lays under your belt is the best way.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
bsthatcher said:Man, I hate peeking around the corner to this site every once in awhile to find stuff like this. Reminds me why I left.
Why in the world would you want to become MORE emotionally attached to women?
It's the emotional attachment part that sucks! You think everything is great, then BAM wake up to reality.
It's fake. And it sucks when your princess starts looking and acting like a nasty pig.
Even the "good" emotional attachment beginning sucks. You lose your focus and whatever you were working on or having fun doing starts to slack.
Get this garbage out of your head, man!
Life is GREAT when you have things under your control. And when you're emotionally attached to somebody -- you don't! It's a sickening feeling.
That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Damn straight. As I was reading the responses to this now messed up thread, it was sickening. Obviously, alot of the responses were pretty much aimed to NOT get oneitis hence all the stuff about how emotional attachment sucks. Emotional attachment only sucks when YOU'RE the only one emotionally attached aka ONEITIS. Now, what seems like the poster is trying to do is not be like a high maintenance shallow chick and find something deeper than looks. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.Columbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
Maybe so but The money you spend on your divorce i will spend on a new BMW M3 in which i will F many fine young hos while you argue with the X-wife you respected and loved sooo much....LOLColumbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Not possible cause they tend to be the best looking and the ones men want to F the most...Francisco d'Anconia said:Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.
Ya, it's all the mind. Whatever you've attached to it is what you'll take with you on your approach and your body language will follow it congruently.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person,..
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.