Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Get some lays under your belt is the best way.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
bsthatcher said:Man, I hate peeking around the corner to this site every once in awhile to find stuff like this. Reminds me why I left.
Why in the world would you want to become MORE emotionally attached to women?
It's the emotional attachment part that sucks! You think everything is great, then BAM wake up to reality.
It's fake. And it sucks when your princess starts looking and acting like a nasty pig.
Even the "good" emotional attachment beginning sucks. You lose your focus and whatever you were working on or having fun doing starts to slack.
Get this garbage out of your head, man!
Life is GREAT when you have things under your control. And when you're emotionally attached to somebody -- you don't! It's a sickening feeling.
That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Damn straight. As I was reading the responses to this now messed up thread, it was sickening. Obviously, alot of the responses were pretty much aimed to NOT get oneitis hence all the stuff about how emotional attachment sucks. Emotional attachment only sucks when YOU'RE the only one emotionally attached aka ONEITIS. Now, what seems like the poster is trying to do is not be like a high maintenance shallow chick and find something deeper than looks. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.Columbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
Maybe so but The money you spend on your divorce i will spend on a new BMW M3 in which i will F many fine young hos while you argue with the X-wife you respected and loved sooo much....LOLColumbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Not possible cause they tend to be the best looking and the ones men want to F the most...Francisco d'Anconia said:Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.
Ya, it's all the mind. Whatever you've attached to it is what you'll take with you on your approach and your body language will follow it congruently.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person,..
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.