Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Get some lays under your belt is the best way.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
bsthatcher said:Man, I hate peeking around the corner to this site every once in awhile to find stuff like this. Reminds me why I left.
Why in the world would you want to become MORE emotionally attached to women?
It's the emotional attachment part that sucks! You think everything is great, then BAM wake up to reality.
It's fake. And it sucks when your princess starts looking and acting like a nasty pig.
Even the "good" emotional attachment beginning sucks. You lose your focus and whatever you were working on or having fun doing starts to slack.
Get this garbage out of your head, man!
Life is GREAT when you have things under your control. And when you're emotionally attached to somebody -- you don't! It's a sickening feeling.
That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Damn straight. As I was reading the responses to this now messed up thread, it was sickening. Obviously, alot of the responses were pretty much aimed to NOT get oneitis hence all the stuff about how emotional attachment sucks. Emotional attachment only sucks when YOU'RE the only one emotionally attached aka ONEITIS. Now, what seems like the poster is trying to do is not be like a high maintenance shallow chick and find something deeper than looks. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.Columbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
Maybe so but The money you spend on your divorce i will spend on a new BMW M3 in which i will F many fine young hos while you argue with the X-wife you respected and loved sooo much....LOLColumbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Not possible cause they tend to be the best looking and the ones men want to F the most...Francisco d'Anconia said:Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.
Ya, it's all the mind. Whatever you've attached to it is what you'll take with you on your approach and your body language will follow it congruently.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person,..
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.