I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Get some lays under your belt is the best way.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
bsthatcher said:Man, I hate peeking around the corner to this site every once in awhile to find stuff like this. Reminds me why I left.
Why in the world would you want to become MORE emotionally attached to women?
It's the emotional attachment part that sucks! You think everything is great, then BAM wake up to reality.
It's fake. And it sucks when your princess starts looking and acting like a nasty pig.
Even the "good" emotional attachment beginning sucks. You lose your focus and whatever you were working on or having fun doing starts to slack.
Get this garbage out of your head, man!
Life is GREAT when you have things under your control. And when you're emotionally attached to somebody -- you don't! It's a sickening feeling.
That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person, because this is messing my game up big time.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Damn straight. As I was reading the responses to this now messed up thread, it was sickening. Obviously, alot of the responses were pretty much aimed to NOT get oneitis hence all the stuff about how emotional attachment sucks. Emotional attachment only sucks when YOU'RE the only one emotionally attached aka ONEITIS. Now, what seems like the poster is trying to do is not be like a high maintenance shallow chick and find something deeper than looks. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.Columbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
Maybe so but The money you spend on your divorce i will spend on a new BMW M3 in which i will F many fine young hos while you argue with the X-wife you respected and loved sooo much....LOLColumbia said:That is the most idiotic thing I've read all day. Seriously, I pity anybody who has that attitude.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not possible cause they tend to be the best looking and the ones men want to F the most...Francisco d'Anconia said:Stay away from mouth-breathing airheads that only have their looks going for them.
Ya, it's all the mind. Whatever you've attached to it is what you'll take with you on your approach and your body language will follow it congruently.DonGorgon said:Not possible. adding emotional value beyond sex leads to AFCism
Gammergq said:What is the best way to not be too caught up with a women looks and genuinely be intrested in getting to know her as person,..
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.