sylvester the cat
Master Don Juan
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Anyone doing anything for their gfriend or special plate? If so, what are you doing or what do you suggest?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yup, I agree. But still....Firestar786 said:I think v day is a load of afc Bull**** tbh
I can't just tell my gf that thoughFirestar786 said:I think v day is a load of afc Bull**** tbh
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I usually don't do anything too fancy - decent dinner, bring her home with some wine and have a good nightsylvester the cat said:Anyone doing anything for their gfriend or special plate? If so, what are you doing or what do you suggest?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No awkwardness at all - I let new girls know that holidays are for when I'm in a relationship. Meaning: if we're still in the dating phase and a holiday or birthday comes up, they shouldn't expect me to get them anything because we're not BF/GF yet. And, surprisingly, women understand this. You guys have to stop being so afraid of worrying about how a woman will react when you think you'll want to do something that might upset her, like not getting her a gift on those special days of the year. Remember: you HAVE to set up things for her to earn in order for her to invest into the relationship - this being one of those things.Zapp Brannigan said:I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Just because you're dating them during this period, dose'nt mean you have to buy them ANYTHING.Zapp Brannigan said:I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.