sylvester the cat
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Anyone doing anything for their gfriend or special plate? If so, what are you doing or what do you suggest?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yup, I agree. But still....Firestar786 said:I think v day is a load of afc Bull**** tbh
I can't just tell my gf that thoughFirestar786 said:I think v day is a load of afc Bull**** tbh
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I usually don't do anything too fancy - decent dinner, bring her home with some wine and have a good nightsylvester the cat said:Anyone doing anything for their gfriend or special plate? If so, what are you doing or what do you suggest?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
No awkwardness at all - I let new girls know that holidays are for when I'm in a relationship. Meaning: if we're still in the dating phase and a holiday or birthday comes up, they shouldn't expect me to get them anything because we're not BF/GF yet. And, surprisingly, women understand this. You guys have to stop being so afraid of worrying about how a woman will react when you think you'll want to do something that might upset her, like not getting her a gift on those special days of the year. Remember: you HAVE to set up things for her to earn in order for her to invest into the relationship - this being one of those things.Zapp Brannigan said:I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Just because you're dating them during this period, dose'nt mean you have to buy them ANYTHING.Zapp Brannigan said:I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.