sylvester the cat
Master Don Juan
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Anyone doing anything for their gfriend or special plate? If so, what are you doing or what do you suggest?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yup, I agree. But still....Firestar786 said:I think v day is a load of afc Bull**** tbh
I can't just tell my gf that thoughFirestar786 said:I think v day is a load of afc Bull**** tbh
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I usually don't do anything too fancy - decent dinner, bring her home with some wine and have a good nightsylvester the cat said:Anyone doing anything for their gfriend or special plate? If so, what are you doing or what do you suggest?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
No awkwardness at all - I let new girls know that holidays are for when I'm in a relationship. Meaning: if we're still in the dating phase and a holiday or birthday comes up, they shouldn't expect me to get them anything because we're not BF/GF yet. And, surprisingly, women understand this. You guys have to stop being so afraid of worrying about how a woman will react when you think you'll want to do something that might upset her, like not getting her a gift on those special days of the year. Remember: you HAVE to set up things for her to earn in order for her to invest into the relationship - this being one of those things.Zapp Brannigan said:I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Just because you're dating them during this period, dose'nt mean you have to buy them ANYTHING.Zapp Brannigan said:I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.