"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Valentine's day

sylvester the cat

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Anyone doing anything for their gfriend or special plate? If so, what are you doing or what do you suggest?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LMFAO

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I have 4 plates at the moment (banged all of them). One of them said we should do something on valentine's day, another mentioned asked me if I celebrated it I said I don't care about it too much, the others haven't mentioned anything yet. It is on Saturday. May go out with one of them, though the rest may phone up while I'm banging her to check what I'm up to. :nono:
 

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sylvester the cat said:
Anyone doing anything for their gfriend or special plate? If so, what are you doing or what do you suggest?
I usually don't do anything too fancy - decent dinner, bring her home with some wine and have a good night :up:

I do get my girlfriend gifts though. A bracelet or a ring ($75 - $150), flowers/chocolate, and a card. She gets mad if I don't write a freaking essay inside of there :crazy:
 

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"Sorry babe, I'll be out of town on business, we'll celebrate when I get back"

Or

"Sorry babe, I made plans to visit family (or friends) out of town, we'll celebrate when I get back"

then go out and get some more plates
 

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if I'm just flirting with a girl, then I'll get her something small for valentine's like a cupcake or something.

if it's supposed to be a relationship or something then I'll get her something big, like a bouquet of roses and take her out to dinner.

nothing wrong with celebrating a special event.
 

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I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Harry Wilmington

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Zapp Brannigan said:
I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.
No awkwardness at all - I let new girls know that holidays are for when I'm in a relationship. Meaning: if we're still in the dating phase and a holiday or birthday comes up, they shouldn't expect me to get them anything because we're not BF/GF yet. And, surprisingly, women understand this. You guys have to stop being so afraid of worrying about how a woman will react when you think you'll want to do something that might upset her, like not getting her a gift on those special days of the year. Remember: you HAVE to set up things for her to earn in order for her to invest into the relationship - this being one of those things.
 

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Gonna give her my d!ck in a box for v day.
 

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So a couple of weeks ago my gf is over and we are cooking together and some commercial for vday comes on the radio and I decide to put a qtr in gf so I say "ugh. I don't celebrate vday. It's a dumb holiday made up by florists and candy companies to get them through the winter. If you don't know I love you on the 13th, it's not gonna take a dozen roses and box of chocolates on the 14th for you to figure it out".

I am expecting some negative reaction but she says "yea it's a dumb holiday, I don't see the point in it other than to make single people feel lonely". So I leave it alone, figuring it will come back up eventually... But it hasn't.

So this weekend I said "since Valentine's Day is on a Saturday, let's non-celebrate by having a BBQ in my back yard. We can invite friends with kids that have no sitters and singles with no dates. I'll beat the pool". She loved the idea and we made plans accordingly.

So now the real question - do I get her something??
 

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i belive valentines is a saturday this year ?

for me this opens all kinds of doors for taking advantage of drunk emotional HB's

i dont like going out much anymore but think im going to make an effort on this night because the chances of getting balls deep will be for once in my favour
 

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Not sure if I have a negative mindset about this day,, but I see it as a commercial scheme for stores and an excuse for all the materialistic women to get expensive gifts and dinners..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I'll do something with her that I enjoy as well. Maybe putt-putt or some other activity. No gifts from me. Just going out with her to have fun.
 

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Zapp Brannigan said:
I see December through Valentine's Day as a time to take off from pursuing women. Dating a new girl during that time puts awkward strain/pressure on the relationship. You don't know what to get them for either holiday, if you should invite them to Christmas gatherings with family/friends, and the busy nature of this time makes both people very busy.
Just because you're dating them during this period, dose'nt mean you have to buy them ANYTHING.
 
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