Basically i'm 16 and a good 125 lbs and she keeps telling me i shouldnt gain weight, and shes a ug. Does this is all filter back to the age old pook post saying that if i gain weight she'd be afraid id be way to far out of her leage and even more too good for her? BTW she likes me...i ljbf'd her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ug friend of mine telling me not to gain weight
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SexinEar said:
obviously
once you pack on some lean mass you'll forget about her and she knows it
it has been proven time and time again that hot chicks like muscle and the uglies CLAIM they don't like it
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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Espi said:
I find that just how society puts unrealistic pressure on girls to be skinnier than they really need to be, society puts pressure on guys to be larger than they really need to be.
Check out BMI (body mass index) calculators on the internet. The calculations and normal ranges of indicies for people based on height vs weight were done based on scientific surveys and statistics of health.
I bet many people reading this will think that 160 lbs at 6'2 is way too skinny. But guess what, 160 lbs is a perfectly normal/healthy weight for someone who is 6'2.
[S]alvatore
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^^^yes but they don't take body composition into account. Would it be perfectly normal/healthy if 100lbs out of that 160 was fat?
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Ok you also have to take common sense into account too[S]alvatore said:
. If you're all fat and within the normal indices, that is a different story. Having a lot of fat is not healthy no matter what height/weight you are.Me for example, I have very little body fat. I am not going to brag and say I'm all cut, because I am not. However, I am the type that can work out for only a little while and I will develop definition really quickly because I am mostly lean muscle and not fat. To some people I seem a bit too light for my weight....but that is only because I do not carry much fat. That is just how my body works and how nature made me.
Consider the lion and the cheetah. The cheetah has an average weight of about 130 lbs and is about 1.5 m long on average. The lion has an average weight of 390 lbs and is about 2.5 m long on average. The lion is 3 times the weight but not even twice the length. They were just built differently. Nature intended it that way.
Should the cheetah gain 100 lbs just to be on par with the lion's weight? Does that make any sense? There are advantages and disadvantages of being heavy vs light. The cheetah takes advantage of its relatively light weight to outrun bigger enemies and prey. The lion relies on its strength to maintain its terrirtory against small enemies.
The point is, lions and cheetahs don't try to fight nature. Neither should you. If you are in a perfectly healthy condition, don't gain or lose weight just because it is something to do or because someone tells you to. Work on your inner core and you will see much greater rewards than gaining a few pounds.
See I am pretty much in that same boat. I am 6'3" 185 with a BMI of 23.1, not much fat at all and really athletic build, but it gets really old when people say all the time that I'm skinny. I have long arms and long legs so I guess I could see why they would think that. I would lift weights regularly for track and I was not weak by any means. Also I usually wear loose clothing. According to the website if I gained 15 lbs. I would be on the extreme low end of overweight. It figure people probably say stuff like that to make themselves feel better for not being in shape.TillTheEndOfTime said:
I was under the belief that fat girls could usually only get fat guys. I figured the hierarchy for men or women was:SexinEar said:
Athletic/ripped/musclebound/toned etc.
Regular
Skinny
Fat
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So long as it's lean muscle mass and not fat I think it's a great idea to gain weight. I've been lifting for about a year and a half now. I'm by no means huge but I look and feel alot better than I did before I gained muscle. And yes girls have complimented me on it including "emo" girls who claim they want skinny dudes.
Then theres no purpose to it?...... wrong. The concept of bulking is actually pretty dangerous, ive been putting down a lot of fat and saturated fat and i really don't know if thats gona put anything on the line. hope not. anyway the only point for me to gain mass is for girls. you gotta change for girls if you want every edge possible. it feels like i have no fuc*ing chance with any girl at 125, and its been that way. so yea f*ckLuveno said:
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tell her to stop being uggly
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Just for your information, jacked means big, not cut.J-Unit said:
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Espi said:
Brad Pitt also makes millions and millions of dollars and is seen on mvoie and TV screens across the world.
If YOU feel that YOU need to bulk up than who in the hell has any say in what YOU do. DO it. Don't ask people if you SHOULD. If you want it, go for it. Simple as that. NOTHING should stop you from doing what YOU, YOU, YOU want.
SHE wants you to stay skinny like a bean pole? Psh, f*ck her.
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Luke!! said:
A: Work on your WHOLE body, just getting bigger arms and "toning" your abs (aka building more muscle and losing bodyfat to make them more visible) isn't going to do you a whole lot of good. Stick with the big three and youll gain some good mass on your entire body.
B: That "mucle on your sholder" is your delts.
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.