"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Clitvin
Don Juan
Looking for a wingman? Msg me
Marf
Don Juan
occasionally i visit Toronto (cuz my moms family is from there...)
picard
Master Don Juan
I live East york.
Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan
Alboh is in TO right now, but he lost all hopes from this site, lol.
I find it ironic how it is a girl who is organizing this stuff.
I'll let Alboh know about this, maybe he'll give you guys a second chance.
DZ
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mflair2000
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wolfsbaneforever
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Yes, I would be much in your debt, if my fellow DJs (AFCs may not apply) would let me know what they think of women in Toronto, Canada.
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=84543
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
picard
Master Don Juan
Sweetcheeks
Don Juan
I graduated from UT last summer, with my second degree.
I've got wingman experience, but the problem is, the girls often end up falling for me...
Sweetcheeks
Don Juan
Simple answer. Some people have no friends, suffer from low self esteem and bitterness, and take pleasure from the idea of doing their small part in making others uncomfortable.
And notice, the message was very brief.
BTW, I was joking. Sort of.
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
aww thanks buddyOriginally posted by Sweetcheeks
Simple answer. Some people have no friends, suffer from low self esteem and bitterness, and take pleasure from the idea of doing their small part in making others uncomfortable.
And notice, the message was very brief.
BTW, I was joking. Sort of.
,ill bring the champagne next time
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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only newbie ?
u cant learn until u see above youworstepisode
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.