"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tips for cashiers, waitresses, etc?

eikk008822

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Hey guys, what are some quick conversation starters you can use on women you see that are cashiers, waitresses etc.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TheCWord

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Why do you need a conversation starter? They're paid to talk to you.
 

eikk008822

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Let me rephrase that, how do you quickly generate attraction with cashiers and waitresses?
 

plate's_empty

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I started a thread about this before. Didn't get any responses :cry: Not necessarily about waitresses but about cashiers, receptionists. Every day people you'd run into while out and about doing your normal daily activities.

Hot Receptionist: "Hi, how are you today?"
Boring nobody: "Good, how are you?
Hot Receptionist: "Good, thanks."
Boring nobody: (nothing)


I was looking for a response to "Hi, how are you today?" Considering if you're out, you can hear it up to ten times in a day.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BigSmooth

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Has it really gotten to this point where men have no idea what to say to women who are PAID to talk to you?

Are we THAT socially inept now?

Geez. It's like people who look for advice on how to start up conversations at a business ****tail event or something.

This is ridiculous...
 

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Why criticize? The guy just wants some help. I manage a lot of cashiers and can tell you to simply be as natural as possible. Give em what you got man. They work there, they are not running away anywhere. They will either be into or not. Slightly more direct considering your time is short though.
 

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If you have trouble keeping a conversation going with women who are paid to BS with you, then I can't help you.

if you want tips on picking them up, though? Remember that they're the help. You can't hit on them in the same way, and I'd lean toward not hitting on them at all.

however, there are exceptions to this rule. Talk to them as if they're women that you're not sexually interested in and see where that leads you.
 

plate's_empty

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BigSmooth said:
Has it really gotten to this point where men have no idea what to say to women who are PAID to talk to you?

Are we THAT socially inept now?

Geez. It's like people who look for advice on how to start up conversations at a business ****tail event or something.

This is ridiculous...
That's the whole point. They're being PAID to talk to you, instead of WANTING to talk to you.

He was asking advice on how to generate attraction from these quick interactions. That's all dude. Relax.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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plate's_empty said:
That's the whole point. They're being PAID to talk to you, instead of WANTING to talk to you.

He was asking advice on how to generate attraction from these quick interactions. That's all dude. Relax.
I am relaxed. I'm just dumbfounded that we are now treating these girls like they're from a different planet.

From my experience, if you can generally get girls to be attracted to you normally, you can get waitresses, cashiers, hostesses, and anyone else that is paid to talk to you be ATTRACTED to you.

It's really not that hard. There's too much over-analyzing going on over here.

I've picked up my fair share of waitresses before. The best thing to do from what I've gathered is be charming and relatable. Being a d0uche does not work very well. The easier you make her life on the job, the more she will notice you. Oh, and looks do play a bigger part here because your window of opportunity is definitely smaller so the way you are judged is a bit more materialistic.


Just be charming people. Be well-liked. Be well-dressed. That's all there is to it.


~ BSmooth
 
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