"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tinder: Experiences and affect on value

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fri2oct15

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2 part question if any of you have an insight.

Looking at trying tinder to get a couple of fwbs, had one for a couple of weeks but we fell out so she gone.

Feel like when I know I'm getting it regularly, my nightgame is smoother. (Abundance?). And to be honest, right now it just feels rusty as anything.

So, question is this: I have a reputation as a bit of a player. Rightly or wrongly. If my social circle and ex-girls/fwbs see me on Tinder, will my value drop as it may come across as desperate.

Theres a couple of ex-girls/fwbs that I want to see in the future as plates, so don't wanna burn those oppurtunities.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If they see you on Tinder they might think " since this guy is a player , then why is he on online dating?" Most of people rely on OLD because they can't find any chicks in their area or they have no time to socialize or they are too afraid to approach females.

Usually the last is more common.
 
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NSX-R said:
If they see you on Tinder they might think " since this guy is a player , then why is he on online dating?" Most of people rely on OLD because they can't find any chicks in their area or they have no time to socialize or they are too afraid to approach females.

Usually the last is more common.
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Unfortunately I think you're right.
 
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What? If they see you on tinder, they are on tinder as well! In your face (theirs)!

Online dating isn't for chumps anymore these days. It's totally fine if your picture is hot. They may even start fantasizing about you.
 
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Huffman said:
What? If they see you on tinder, they are on tinder as well! In your face (theirs)!

Online dating isn't for chumps anymore these days. It's totally fine if your picture is hot. They may even start fantasizing about you.
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How many people do you know that usually judge themselves first and later the others? None
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you look like someone they'd like to ****, it'll probably just give em competition anxiety.
 
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Yeah. Still I would do it personally. The negative effect would definitely be there if you look like an AFC on the pic so I see your point.
 
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NSX-R said:
If they see you on Tinder they might think " since this guy is a player , then why is he on online dating?" Most of people rely on OLD because they can't find any chicks in their area or they have no time to socialize or they are too afraid to approach females.

Usually the last is more common.
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Or they just like getting easy lays, lol
 
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Bit of a divide here haha.

Gut feeling is it says "can't get girls irl" even if that's not true.

Go with the gut I guess.
 
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Who. Fvcking. Cares.

Women worry about their "rep" and being a "slut". Not guys.

Do what you want OP. Stop thinking like a woman.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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NSX-R said:
lol, tell me your success rate in OLD. I do know mine,0% xD
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Never tried tinder..fvcked about 10 women from OLD...
 
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