"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This may not mean anything?

Kian_boem

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Hey do u guys think this doesn’t mean anything?
last week in college my friend & i were at lunch and the girl i like was also at lunch too so when i was talking to my friends she came up to me and ask me to hold her notebook because she was going to take a boy in a wheelchair to his class. so i was looking at her from across the room & she caught me looking at her so i looked away. then later when lunch was over i went up to her to give her back her notebook & she said thank u.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dustmuffin

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Don't hold things for women. You are not her servant. Never hold a purse or any other items. She should have had wheelchair boy hold it
 

zekko

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Don't hold things for women. You are not her servant. Never hold a purse or any other items. She should have had wheelchair boy hold it
This is supposed to be a sh!t test or compliance test from women. I've always thought this was paranoia on the part of the PUAs though. Like you're really going to lose all your masculinity if you hold her purse for five minutes? You should never do anyone an act of kindess if they ask? Doesn't change my frame any. Seems paranoid to me.
 

marmel75

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Lmao!

 

17 shots

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Don't look away next time. Be a man and hold eye contact
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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