"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This is what makes me feel incredibly hopeless in dating
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
but then he will continue doing it for another decade. if you dont call him out on it he will never wake up
You guys are making me regret to even attempt at asking for a favor.
Murk
Master Don Juan
I'm mainly unhappy because I just can't find a damn girl I wanna date...I slept with a couple women this year but neither one of them were attractive enough to date
Overall, my life is going beautifully - I'm making money hand over fist, I have a great family and great friends. I go out all the time... no real financial worries. I'm almost done with my student loans, buying a house soon, etc... I am just so damn lonely...”
I love the way this character grows over time. This post is from 2015 btw.
lamath
Master Don Juan
I asked him many time if he had asperger he always ignored the question.
Imo thats his problem he never was able to detect the sarcasm and subtle insult in the many reply he got.
I would not mind him coming back, but i think he should be limited on the amount of thread and post he makes.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
10 year later: "Ask a 34 year old guy making 8-11k a month whos not happy"
That and the fact he's always talking about his sisters.
Imagine having aspergers and then having 2 sisters who basically brainwashed you into believing the crap that you're awesome, handsome, plenty of friends, awesome genes etc etc etc....the same crap how a woman actually feels they are in real life.
The feminine imperative drilled into an aspergers mind.
BOOM!
BigDave is born.
I think our Dave here is the manifestation of the feminine imperative...how relentless it is.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Never took the sisters into consideration, the guy has no chance. Only thing that would be worst is 2 sisters and a single mom.
GAME OVER.
I'm not the therapy pushing kind of guy, but it probably needed.
Asperger is not all negative, they can often learn to fake social skills very well, also their lack of social awareness makes them handle rejection way better than others.
if dave is reading this thread now im sure hes crying
Murk
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He’s been trolling this forum for years, why are you taking the bait that Dave might be real when these guys quickly found him out?
Spaz you shouldn’t have deleted your posts, although “car salesman troll” on google brings up two memes of him easily and some threads. I hope it’s a perm ban and I hope the people who have vehemently defended him @Spaz @Amante Silvestre etc feel a bit silly.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Funny thing is he would not be crying. His weakness can also be a strengh
lamath
Master Don Juan
Man no one can troll that hard without some serious issue, like the GF one.@Spaz @lamath
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He’s been trolling this forum for years, why are you taking the bait that Dave might be real when these guys quickly found him out?
Spaz you shouldn’t have deleted your posts, although “car salesman troll” on google brings up two memes of him easily and some threads. I hope it’s a perm ban and I hope the people who have vehemently defended him @Spaz @Amante Silvestre etc feel a bit silly.
no one would waste that energy and time.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Agreed.
He ain't a troll.
But maybe we should limit his postings when he returns as some of our members are obviously easily fazed and get all emotional just thinking about him.
everytime someone gets attention theres chance he will get haters too
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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