Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Not sure what you mean by "too many options beside approaching", i'm guessing you mean drinking or just talking to your friends instead of actually going up to the girl and going for what you actually want...is this right?skip781 said:another extreme tip for those with approach anxiety...........if u got too many options besides approaching, THEN GET RID OF THEM@
Ok back to my thoughts on the original post, I can see where you are coming from skip on the make your life boring, if thats what it takes to get the motivation to go for it, then thats what it takes. I could see that it would motivate you to sort it out. But on the other hand if you make your life boring then you become boring, notice how when people say "they are boring", they are not saying that what the person is saying is boring, they are implying that the actual person is boring. You could lie and make up some cool stories that you haven't done, but you could easily see through them.act macho like the Preditor, dont use humour just
look at her with a hard-on in your trousers
skip781 said:doggystyle - in my original post, i guess i need to reiterate - lets hope your life is somewhat interesting in the first place, and THEN if u have too much anxiety to want to approach and meet new women, you should eliminate things that take up your time, such as TV, internet, ect ect.....essentially, make urself too bored to stay home (takes alot of willpower), and then just GO OUT!
Regardless of the motivation, you shouldn't spend too much time doing these things. You should be improving yourself insteadskip2mylou781 said:1)masturbating
2)watching tv
3)surfing internet
4)chatting on the phone with friendes
5)just hanging out with friends (might be a stretch)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Lust said:I don't think thats a good idea.
I don't think it's worth it.
Do you really want to speak to women, and tell them you do absolutely nothing fun in your life?
For what? To have the balls to approach them?
I think even if you did do this, you will become a more boring person in general.
Just try some confidence building materials or something, i personally don't think this is worth the effort.
And i sure as hell aren't going to try it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.