tennisbuck12
Don Juan
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So I have a third date with a lady, and I'm cooking for her at my house. Do you guys have any recipes for a novice at cooking? Tips?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That's weak as fvck bro...every man should know how to cook...I can't tell you how many lays I've gotten from inviting women over and cooking them a home made meal from scratch and having them help me out in the kitchen...it's like foreplay before the meali don't know man, i usually just order sushi if a girl is coming to my place. check this out:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
what is she, a slave? sure we are DJs but honestly, its not like she is the one that has to make all the affort, you gotta makke SOME amount of effort. cooking is a great way to show a girl that you're putting some effort, without spending too much money, and its practical because its almost a gurantee you will get her in bed later.why in gods name would you arrange a date that involves you cooking for her
when you dont know how to cook
do you realise how much pressure your putting yourself under for absolutley no reason
also she should be cooking for you by this point not the other way around
frame is all wrong bro, sorry
You guys vastly underestimate how much work knowing how to cook saves you in getting laid...if you are starting at a 2 out of 10 prior to cooking you end at a 8 out of 10 after cooking...maybe even a 9 or 10 depending on how good it is.My opinion is, Don't bend over backwards cooking for her. Keep it simple. Order in some Chinese or a pizza or simply microwave a bag of organic ready-rice; peel open a can of organic chicken; serve up a raw green veggie. All are good enough.
Oh and tell her to bring drinks. Make her do some of the fvucking work.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Would you use that line for a second date if you didn't kiss close on first date?"So, for our next date, I was thinking we could cook a new recipe together."