"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Third date Meal at my house

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So I have a third date with a lady, and I'm cooking for her at my house. Do you guys have any recipes for a novice at cooking? Tips?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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usernamedox11

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i don't know man, i usually just order sushi if a girl is coming to my place. check this out:
 

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why in gods name would you arrange a date that involves you cooking for her

when you dont know how to cook

do you realise how much pressure your putting yourself under for absolutley no reason

also she should be cooking for you by this point not the other way around

frame is all wrong bro, sorry
 

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i don't know man, i usually just order sushi if a girl is coming to my place. check this out:
That's weak as fvck bro...every man should know how to cook...I can't tell you how many lays I've gotten from inviting women over and cooking them a home made meal from scratch and having them help me out in the kitchen...it's like foreplay before the meal
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cook something you like and you know how to cook that isn't going to stink up the apartment or is going to have you spending too much time in the cooking and cleaning up. Don't try to worry about what you think she might like.

My goto meal is shish kabobs, marinated overnight, baked potatoes and salad. Fix the salad before she arrives, when she gets there pop the potatoes in the oven. Put the kabobs on the grill, 10 minutes, then flip for another 10.. potatoes cook in 20 minutes. Everything is done at once, and sh!t cooks itself so you can spend your time seducing her.
 

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why in gods name would you arrange a date that involves you cooking for her

when you dont know how to cook

do you realise how much pressure your putting yourself under for absolutley no reason

also she should be cooking for you by this point not the other way around

frame is all wrong bro, sorry
what is she, a slave? sure we are DJs but honestly, its not like she is the one that has to make all the affort, you gotta makke SOME amount of effort. cooking is a great way to show a girl that you're putting some effort, without spending too much money, and its practical because its almost a gurantee you will get her in bed later.

i cook, and i show her what to do, basically she will follow my instructions, its actually puts you as more dominant, and best thing - its super fun.

so learn how to cook OP.
 

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What I've done before that's worked quite well is to make it a date where you're BOTH in the kitchen cooking something new. You simply say, "So, for our next date, I was thinking we could cook a new recipe together." I've suggested this a few times, and was surprised at how many woman actually have dreams of doing this with their guy. You pick out something you've both never cooked before that's still somewhat easy - i.e. chicken with some new kind of sauce or side to it - and then you make the whole thing a date: Going to the store together, picking out items (and wine, of course) and a good movie at RedBox (or on the Netflix if you got it), then going to your place or hers and putting everything together. Works like a charm - she gets to see you in the kitchen, you're including her in the process, and... well, you're drinking wine. You'll both be full, drunk, chilled out by the movie and ready to do other things later...
 

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My opinion is, Don't bend over backwards cooking for her. Keep it simple. Order in some Chinese or a pizza or simply microwave a bag of organic ready-rice; peel open a can of organic chicken; serve up a raw green veggie. All are good enough.

Oh and tell her to bring drinks. Make her do some of the fvucking work.
You guys vastly underestimate how much work knowing how to cook saves you in getting laid...if you are starting at a 2 out of 10 prior to cooking you end at a 8 out of 10 after cooking...maybe even a 9 or 10 depending on how good it is.

You skip a whole bunch of resistance and BS. There will be virtually none.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Peel open a can of chicken? lol damn son.
 

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Why did this post remind me of this??


My take is if shes coming to your house, the job is done.

Get her to bring something to drink and make something basic.

Spaghetti Bollonese or something like that, if you cant get take away and pass it off as your own cooking haha

Then proceed to Netflix and chill....
 
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