tennisbuck12
Don Juan
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So I have a third date with a lady, and I'm cooking for her at my house. Do you guys have any recipes for a novice at cooking? Tips?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's weak as fvck bro...every man should know how to cook...I can't tell you how many lays I've gotten from inviting women over and cooking them a home made meal from scratch and having them help me out in the kitchen...it's like foreplay before the meali don't know man, i usually just order sushi if a girl is coming to my place. check this out:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
what is she, a slave? sure we are DJs but honestly, its not like she is the one that has to make all the affort, you gotta makke SOME amount of effort. cooking is a great way to show a girl that you're putting some effort, without spending too much money, and its practical because its almost a gurantee you will get her in bed later.why in gods name would you arrange a date that involves you cooking for her
when you dont know how to cook
do you realise how much pressure your putting yourself under for absolutley no reason
also she should be cooking for you by this point not the other way around
frame is all wrong bro, sorry
You guys vastly underestimate how much work knowing how to cook saves you in getting laid...if you are starting at a 2 out of 10 prior to cooking you end at a 8 out of 10 after cooking...maybe even a 9 or 10 depending on how good it is.My opinion is, Don't bend over backwards cooking for her. Keep it simple. Order in some Chinese or a pizza or simply microwave a bag of organic ready-rice; peel open a can of organic chicken; serve up a raw green veggie. All are good enough.
Oh and tell her to bring drinks. Make her do some of the fvucking work.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Would you use that line for a second date if you didn't kiss close on first date?"So, for our next date, I was thinking we could cook a new recipe together."