tennisbuck12
Don Juan
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So I have a third date with a lady, and I'm cooking for her at my house. Do you guys have any recipes for a novice at cooking? Tips?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's weak as fvck bro...every man should know how to cook...I can't tell you how many lays I've gotten from inviting women over and cooking them a home made meal from scratch and having them help me out in the kitchen...it's like foreplay before the meali don't know man, i usually just order sushi if a girl is coming to my place. check this out:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
what is she, a slave? sure we are DJs but honestly, its not like she is the one that has to make all the affort, you gotta makke SOME amount of effort. cooking is a great way to show a girl that you're putting some effort, without spending too much money, and its practical because its almost a gurantee you will get her in bed later.why in gods name would you arrange a date that involves you cooking for her
when you dont know how to cook
do you realise how much pressure your putting yourself under for absolutley no reason
also she should be cooking for you by this point not the other way around
frame is all wrong bro, sorry
You guys vastly underestimate how much work knowing how to cook saves you in getting laid...if you are starting at a 2 out of 10 prior to cooking you end at a 8 out of 10 after cooking...maybe even a 9 or 10 depending on how good it is.My opinion is, Don't bend over backwards cooking for her. Keep it simple. Order in some Chinese or a pizza or simply microwave a bag of organic ready-rice; peel open a can of organic chicken; serve up a raw green veggie. All are good enough.
Oh and tell her to bring drinks. Make her do some of the fvucking work.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Would you use that line for a second date if you didn't kiss close on first date?"So, for our next date, I was thinking we could cook a new recipe together."