"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JohnChops

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How do you stop yourself from overthinking/ thinking to.hard about.something that is easy? I always think everything.is.some complicated route but in reality its as.simple as plug in play. How do I stop?! (Sorry for the periods my phone hates me)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tell yourself it's simple.

Keep telling yourself that it's no big deal, easy, simple, etc.

Your mind will slowly move away from over thinking about that issue.

You will need to do this anytime you catch yourself over thinking. It only works for specific situations. It's not a general (global) cure for over thinking.

I use this a lot.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Tell yourself it's simple.

Keep telling yourself that it's no big deal, easy, simple, etc.

Your mind will slowly move away from over thinking about that issue.

You will need to do this anytime you catch yourself over thinking. It only works for specific situations. It's not a general (global) cure for over thinking.

I use this a lot.
So like doing affirmations?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Obviously you still need to study and/or practice whatever you need to learn. It's not intended to make you ****y or complacent.

The whole purpose of this is fight off the "This is impossible. This is way over my head. This is so complicated, I'm lost" type of thinking.
 

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Get a girl that has a sauna or hot tub. Over thinking problems will be resolved. Or pick up a sport like racquet ball.
 
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