"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thinking too hard?

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How do you stop yourself from overthinking/ thinking to.hard about.something that is easy? I always think everything.is.some complicated route but in reality its as.simple as plug in play. How do I stop?! (Sorry for the periods my phone hates me)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tell yourself it's simple.

Keep telling yourself that it's no big deal, easy, simple, etc.

Your mind will slowly move away from over thinking about that issue.

You will need to do this anytime you catch yourself over thinking. It only works for specific situations. It's not a general (global) cure for over thinking.

I use this a lot.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Tell yourself it's simple.

Keep telling yourself that it's no big deal, easy, simple, etc.

Your mind will slowly move away from over thinking about that issue.

You will need to do this anytime you catch yourself over thinking. It only works for specific situations. It's not a general (global) cure for over thinking.

I use this a lot.
So like doing affirmations?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Obviously you still need to study and/or practice whatever you need to learn. It's not intended to make you ****y or complacent.

The whole purpose of this is fight off the "This is impossible. This is way over my head. This is so complicated, I'm lost" type of thinking.
 

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Get a girl that has a sauna or hot tub. Over thinking problems will be resolved. Or pick up a sport like racquet ball.
 
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