"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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they always say sorry

check_mate_kid_uk

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girls always say sorry to me always appolagise for everything for example if we bump in to each other accidnetly, well they appolagise even if its my fault or when there is no reason for any one to appolagise.

i really odnt understand why they are so appolagetic. Is this a good thing? does it imply anything about what they think of me?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would guess..they apologize because they think they did something wrong...or you read too much into it
 

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Originally posted by b's nuts
maybe they feel sorry for you.
:p sure what ever lol its not that kind of sory if you paid nay attention to the post. Re-read Re-read ;)
 

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Just because a complete stranger (or someone you know) is polite to you doesn't mean she's interested. Don't make yourself sick reading, rereading, and re-rereading her gestures. Getting to know her is the only way you can be sure if she's interested or not.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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that was what i thought, i just wanted to see maybe some 1 else saw another reason for it
 

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This IS significant.

It is indicative of the fact that females do not wish to offend someone or have someone mad at them.

I will now leave it up to you to figure out the application to this,
 

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Don't worry, it's just a condtioned response.

It's just like if someone should happen to see you trip and fall. A bystander will approach and say: "are you okay?" I usually respond with: "Yes! I just broke my leg. I'm fine!" :confused:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I get girls appologizing to me all the time also, kinda makes me wonder also, so I dunnnno gl figuring it out lol
 
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Originally posted by sux2bu
Don't worry, it's just a condtioned response.

It's just like if someone should happen to see you trip and fall. A bystander will approach and say: "are you okay?" I usually respond with: "Yes! I just broke my leg. I'm fine!" :confused:
flesh heals.
 

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no i didnt ask if thats a sign of intrest, im asking why they say soory ie are they intimadated or what? because i dont say sorry when its not neccisery.
 
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because i dont say sorry when its not neccisery.
Well what do you do when YOU bump into someone? Say nothing?! That's incredibly rude. It's basically mandatory to apologize when you collide with someone. It doesn't mean **** other then "sorry" Case closed.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yes some are big on feelings(duh..lol) and their little girly issues.Like if you don't say hello when you come in a room or have table manners in public,the way you dress,not being social,etc.

All women should act like that instead of this super-fem *****-bot they wanna potray know.
 

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I think this should go into the archive!
 

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checkmate

Did you think it made you an AFC if you apologized? Why would you not apologize if it was your fault?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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