Who Dares Win
Master Don Juan
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- Jan 16, 2012
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The things that concerns me the most is that men like him get military training and guns....thats like throwing fireworks in the fireplace in your grandma's home.
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Usually it's not selfless, usually it's an attempt to buy love as others have mentioned, even if the man isn't immediately aware. I mean is getting a tattoo of their initials after a few months of dating selfless? I don't think so. It could be, but the chances are slim imo. I'm willing to bet he's identifying heavily with their interactions and is going 'all in' without her reciprocity, which usually ends badly because of the immense time sink he's making it for himself.The noblest thing a man can do - Is to do the best that he can!
If he's content selflessly doing good things for his woman & kids...
Why should anyone else care or get upset about it?
The thing is he's justifying acts that none of us here would never do or act upon it. And as you say he's identifying himself with men who we criticize here and warn guys to not act in that order as it's pathetic and will not get you the puzz.Usually it's not selfless, usually it's an attempt to buy love as others have mentioned, even if the man isn't immediately aware. I mean is getting a tattoo of their initials after a few months of dating selfless? I don't think so. It could be, but the chances are slim imo. I'm willing to bet he's identifying heavily with their interactions and is going 'all in' without her reciprocity, which usually ends badly because of the immense time sink he's making it for himself.
@r4zorsharp has posted some extreme cringe in this thread. I had a feeling he was obsessed with his reaction score when reading how oversimplified his threads were. The comments he's made here have confirmed that to me. Lots of flexing and bashing other members for claiming to be such a 'cool guy'.
This is what I'm seeing.Usually it's not selfless, usually it's an attempt to buy love as others have mentioned, even if the man isn't immediately aware.
That makes it even worse...whatever she saw in him was because she felt there was something that put him above her. His behavior is lowering his value at almost every step of the way.This is what I'm seeing.
My friend just showed me a pic of her and also of him. She seems like 2-3 points above in SMV than him and is also younger. Make of that what you will...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.