Who Dares Win
Master Don Juan
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The things that concerns me the most is that men like him get military training and guns....thats like throwing fireworks in the fireplace in your grandma's home.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Usually it's not selfless, usually it's an attempt to buy love as others have mentioned, even if the man isn't immediately aware. I mean is getting a tattoo of their initials after a few months of dating selfless? I don't think so. It could be, but the chances are slim imo. I'm willing to bet he's identifying heavily with their interactions and is going 'all in' without her reciprocity, which usually ends badly because of the immense time sink he's making it for himself.The noblest thing a man can do - Is to do the best that he can!
If he's content selflessly doing good things for his woman & kids...
Why should anyone else care or get upset about it?
The thing is he's justifying acts that none of us here would never do or act upon it. And as you say he's identifying himself with men who we criticize here and warn guys to not act in that order as it's pathetic and will not get you the puzz.Usually it's not selfless, usually it's an attempt to buy love as others have mentioned, even if the man isn't immediately aware. I mean is getting a tattoo of their initials after a few months of dating selfless? I don't think so. It could be, but the chances are slim imo. I'm willing to bet he's identifying heavily with their interactions and is going 'all in' without her reciprocity, which usually ends badly because of the immense time sink he's making it for himself.
@r4zorsharp has posted some extreme cringe in this thread. I had a feeling he was obsessed with his reaction score when reading how oversimplified his threads were. The comments he's made here have confirmed that to me. Lots of flexing and bashing other members for claiming to be such a 'cool guy'.
This is what I'm seeing.Usually it's not selfless, usually it's an attempt to buy love as others have mentioned, even if the man isn't immediately aware.
That makes it even worse...whatever she saw in him was because she felt there was something that put him above her. His behavior is lowering his value at almost every step of the way.This is what I'm seeing.
My friend just showed me a pic of her and also of him. She seems like 2-3 points above in SMV than him and is also younger. Make of that what you will...
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.