Ive finally realized it, the one major problem with shades of AFC, is that what ever girl im interested in and vice versa, I always call her gorgeous, beautiful etc. (hell last year I even went to the extreme and found out the words in her native language.) I think it starts to lose meaning after a while? but it makes them feel good.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The one major problem I have.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Prodigy746
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Dont over compliment the girl especially if she is really hot. I might say you have really nice eyes or nice hair but i would never say you look awesome or you are beautiful.
conquer never dies
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It's not about them, its about you. Remember that
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
conquer never dies
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It depends but 9/10 it is a bad idea. Keep your compliments genuine because women will spot your bull. Women will then feel like they have the upper hand and that you are desperate and make you just a friend. Hope that helped.Ease said:i hesitate about complimenting early on :S (not LTR)
is it better to throw in a few complimenents?
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When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
REAL TALK!!!!Unbridled_Phoenix said:When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am;
Complimenting does not have to equal supplicating. It completely depends on your frame and how you say it. If you have a strong frame, project it and say it without neediness, she will know that is not supplication. Women like compliments, specially when they are delivered by sex worthy men. Most newbies do not have that strong frame, so unless you know what you are doing, it is probably best to lay off the compliments.