Ive finally realized it, the one major problem with shades of AFC, is that what ever girl im interested in and vice versa, I always call her gorgeous, beautiful etc. (hell last year I even went to the extreme and found out the words in her native language.) I think it starts to lose meaning after a while? but it makes them feel good.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The one major problem I have.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Prodigy746
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Dont over compliment the girl especially if she is really hot. I might say you have really nice eyes or nice hair but i would never say you look awesome or you are beautiful.
conquer never dies
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It's not about them, its about you. Remember that
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
conquer never dies
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It depends but 9/10 it is a bad idea. Keep your compliments genuine because women will spot your bull. Women will then feel like they have the upper hand and that you are desperate and make you just a friend. Hope that helped.Ease said:i hesitate about complimenting early on :S (not LTR)
is it better to throw in a few complimenents?
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When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
REAL TALK!!!!Unbridled_Phoenix said:When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am;
Complimenting does not have to equal supplicating. It completely depends on your frame and how you say it. If you have a strong frame, project it and say it without neediness, she will know that is not supplication. Women like compliments, specially when they are delivered by sex worthy men. Most newbies do not have that strong frame, so unless you know what you are doing, it is probably best to lay off the compliments.