Ive finally realized it, the one major problem with shades of AFC, is that what ever girl im interested in and vice versa, I always call her gorgeous, beautiful etc. (hell last year I even went to the extreme and found out the words in her native language.) I think it starts to lose meaning after a while? but it makes them feel good.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The one major problem I have.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Prodigy746
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Dont over compliment the girl especially if she is really hot. I might say you have really nice eyes or nice hair but i would never say you look awesome or you are beautiful.
conquer never dies
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It's not about them, its about you. Remember that
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
conquer never dies
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It depends but 9/10 it is a bad idea. Keep your compliments genuine because women will spot your bull. Women will then feel like they have the upper hand and that you are desperate and make you just a friend. Hope that helped.Ease said:i hesitate about complimenting early on :S (not LTR)
is it better to throw in a few complimenents?
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When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
REAL TALK!!!!Unbridled_Phoenix said:When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am;
Complimenting does not have to equal supplicating. It completely depends on your frame and how you say it. If you have a strong frame, project it and say it without neediness, she will know that is not supplication. Women like compliments, specially when they are delivered by sex worthy men. Most newbies do not have that strong frame, so unless you know what you are doing, it is probably best to lay off the compliments.