Ive finally realized it, the one major problem with shades of AFC, is that what ever girl im interested in and vice versa, I always call her gorgeous, beautiful etc. (hell last year I even went to the extreme and found out the words in her native language.) I think it starts to lose meaning after a while? but it makes them feel good.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The one major problem I have.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Prodigy746
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Dont over compliment the girl especially if she is really hot. I might say you have really nice eyes or nice hair but i would never say you look awesome or you are beautiful.
conquer never dies
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It's not about them, its about you. Remember that
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
conquer never dies
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It depends but 9/10 it is a bad idea. Keep your compliments genuine because women will spot your bull. Women will then feel like they have the upper hand and that you are desperate and make you just a friend. Hope that helped.Ease said:i hesitate about complimenting early on :S (not LTR)
is it better to throw in a few complimenents?
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When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
REAL TALK!!!!Unbridled_Phoenix said:When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am;
Complimenting does not have to equal supplicating. It completely depends on your frame and how you say it. If you have a strong frame, project it and say it without neediness, she will know that is not supplication. Women like compliments, specially when they are delivered by sex worthy men. Most newbies do not have that strong frame, so unless you know what you are doing, it is probably best to lay off the compliments.