Ive finally realized it, the one major problem with shades of AFC, is that what ever girl im interested in and vice versa, I always call her gorgeous, beautiful etc. (hell last year I even went to the extreme and found out the words in her native language.) I think it starts to lose meaning after a while? but it makes them feel good.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The one major problem I have.
- Thread starter mtlwlu
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Prodigy746
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Dont over compliment the girl especially if she is really hot. I might say you have really nice eyes or nice hair but i would never say you look awesome or you are beautiful.
conquer never dies
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It's not about them, its about you. Remember that
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
conquer never dies
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It depends but 9/10 it is a bad idea. Keep your compliments genuine because women will spot your bull. Women will then feel like they have the upper hand and that you are desperate and make you just a friend. Hope that helped.Ease said:i hesitate about complimenting early on :S (not LTR)
is it better to throw in a few complimenents?
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When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am; I better kiss your @ss to keep you around". A Man with a strong frame will complement a woman sporadically and almost as an afterthought; what he sais in passing she will think about for days and call her friends to get an opinion about, and it's just part of the emotional vortex you create inside them.
REAL TALK!!!!Unbridled_Phoenix said:When getting to know a woman,
Frequent Complementing=Supplication
Women, like everyone, want to trade UP. Supplication is your unintentional way of telling her "You're better than I am;
Complimenting does not have to equal supplicating. It completely depends on your frame and how you say it. If you have a strong frame, project it and say it without neediness, she will know that is not supplication. Women like compliments, specially when they are delivered by sex worthy men. Most newbies do not have that strong frame, so unless you know what you are doing, it is probably best to lay off the compliments.