"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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the ol' switcheroo.

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well. ive been busting this one chicks chops for a while, was with her tonight and she was all over me all night. begging me to come out with her blah blah blah its in the bag. BUT: tonight i met one of her friends. we have ****ing awesome eye contact all night, and i like her soo much more than the first chick. to put it bluntly, i want the other girl. tomorrow night im goin out with both of them and some other people. so.... do any of you have any suggestions about dealing with the first girl... like...keeping her away long enough so i can lay it down on the new one?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Better to just let the one who likes you already continue to drool all over you while making covert bedroom eyes with the one you want. Then when the moment is right, later in the night, slide her your number on a piece of paper discretely. Put your name, number and "our little secret, don't tell anyone" on it. That way you can bang the one who likes you already, and maybe hatch something up with the friend later.

Gamble though, if she snitches on you then you may end up with nothing, but whatever, who cares...
Dime a dozen right?
Peace
 

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One girl wants what the other one has. Girl Politics 101.

I've seen this scenario backfire before, here's how it goes: Guy meets Girl A, goes smoothly. Then Girl B comes around, rock n roll hoochie coo! Guy ditches Girl A for Girl B, who is suddenly not interested anymore, and once again he chokes the chicken in frustration and anger.

I would be a sneaky bastard and get the first one THEN work the second one when discretion is possible.
 
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thanks for the advice. i see your point, but these girls are friends, so in my opinion it will only work if i take one or the other. I am going out with them tonight again, so I am just going to try and get girl B. if it works, great. if not, at the end of the night I will take girl A.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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@hellomisslady

dont be stupid.

to the rest:

the night is over..****ing...i ****ed it up pretty bad. i mean i still hooked up with girl a, so its not like i didnt get any action. but i ****ed i didnt hook up with girl b. girl a wouldnt leave me alone for more than 30 seconds the whole night, no matter what i tried. so now i guess my only option is to tell her it was just a one night deal, and then try to get the other.
 

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Unbridled_Phoenix said:
One girl wants what the other one has. Girl Politics 101.

I've seen this scenario backfire before, here's how it goes: Guy meets Girl A, goes smoothly. Then Girl B comes around, rock n roll hoochie coo! Guy ditches Girl A for Girl B, who is suddenly not interested anymore, and once again he chokes the chicken in frustration and anger.

I would be a sneaky bastard and get the first one THEN work the second one when discretion is possible.
This. What's going on is simple preselection/social proof. Don't burn your bridges with the first chick, bang her if you like her physically at least, then friend zone her or get her on your team as an FB/FWB. That's the best case scenario and will ensure the second chick will still be hot for you. Hell, you might even get referral sex from banging the first chick.
 
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