"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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the ol' switcheroo.

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well. ive been busting this one chicks chops for a while, was with her tonight and she was all over me all night. begging me to come out with her blah blah blah its in the bag. BUT: tonight i met one of her friends. we have ****ing awesome eye contact all night, and i like her soo much more than the first chick. to put it bluntly, i want the other girl. tomorrow night im goin out with both of them and some other people. so.... do any of you have any suggestions about dealing with the first girl... like...keeping her away long enough so i can lay it down on the new one?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Better to just let the one who likes you already continue to drool all over you while making covert bedroom eyes with the one you want. Then when the moment is right, later in the night, slide her your number on a piece of paper discretely. Put your name, number and "our little secret, don't tell anyone" on it. That way you can bang the one who likes you already, and maybe hatch something up with the friend later.

Gamble though, if she snitches on you then you may end up with nothing, but whatever, who cares...
Dime a dozen right?
Peace
 

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One girl wants what the other one has. Girl Politics 101.

I've seen this scenario backfire before, here's how it goes: Guy meets Girl A, goes smoothly. Then Girl B comes around, rock n roll hoochie coo! Guy ditches Girl A for Girl B, who is suddenly not interested anymore, and once again he chokes the chicken in frustration and anger.

I would be a sneaky bastard and get the first one THEN work the second one when discretion is possible.
 
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thanks for the advice. i see your point, but these girls are friends, so in my opinion it will only work if i take one or the other. I am going out with them tonight again, so I am just going to try and get girl B. if it works, great. if not, at the end of the night I will take girl A.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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@hellomisslady

dont be stupid.

to the rest:

the night is over..****ing...i ****ed it up pretty bad. i mean i still hooked up with girl a, so its not like i didnt get any action. but i ****ed i didnt hook up with girl b. girl a wouldnt leave me alone for more than 30 seconds the whole night, no matter what i tried. so now i guess my only option is to tell her it was just a one night deal, and then try to get the other.
 

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Unbridled_Phoenix said:
One girl wants what the other one has. Girl Politics 101.

I've seen this scenario backfire before, here's how it goes: Guy meets Girl A, goes smoothly. Then Girl B comes around, rock n roll hoochie coo! Guy ditches Girl A for Girl B, who is suddenly not interested anymore, and once again he chokes the chicken in frustration and anger.

I would be a sneaky bastard and get the first one THEN work the second one when discretion is possible.
This. What's going on is simple preselection/social proof. Don't burn your bridges with the first chick, bang her if you like her physically at least, then friend zone her or get her on your team as an FB/FWB. That's the best case scenario and will ensure the second chick will still be hot for you. Hell, you might even get referral sex from banging the first chick.
 
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