B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Does it still apply even if you'e exit text was "hit me up if u change ur mind?" Like what if I contact her in three weeks if she still hasn't? I want one more opinion and I promise I'll let this go
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
if you die today, same person will forget about you..I can't forget. My thoughts are torturing me and I can't do my schoolwork or anything for that matter.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I know this old. Why do you say call instead of text?Two choices, stay no contact and be miserable wondering what you already know or call her up, no text, CALL her up, express how you feel and what you think and receive the bad news immediately and start to deal with it. Unless she is a cluster b who comes and goes she is most likely done if you dont hear from her.
Focus on other women.I know this old. Why do you say call instead of text?
I am but I'm not giving up on this one...Focus on other women.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ugh that message was so ****ing stupid. And just to clear this up, I'm not trying to seek approval here. I'm just voicing my thoughts and if I get some insight, great. I know how I'm coming across but hey I'm online right now and I dunno you guys so I think it's alright...There is no rule. You can write in this forum and still be sneaking "behind our backs" texting her. The point is, you told her "if you change your mind, hit me up". In this case, if you want to be a man of your word, go on with your life. Things look and feel ****ty right now, but that will change soon depending on how well you handle this. If you feel low and bad right now, feel it, it's OK. Life has its lows, too. But then, go for it. Not simply women, but everything else.
so you think I'm better off leaving it alone? Like in the long run, my chances will be better if there is any?She didn't hit you up which means she didn't change her mind. The same obsession and desperation that blew it for you before it will blow it for you again. If you need to make the same mistake one more time to realise that then knock yourself out. Something in you obviously needs to nuke this thing for good.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Calling is direct and shows initiative no nonsense.I know this old. Why do you say call instead of text?
she has forgotten about you. She is riding new ****. You need to do the same. Find new women.I wanna forget about it but I also wanna know the door could still be open one day in spite of that text and that I could be the one to knock on it
No. And you dunno thatshe has forgotten about you. She is riding new ****. You need to do the same. Find new women.
not getting over her. Sorry. Ever. I ****ed up with her and I'll make it right. I can make her laugh, smile, wet, everything.Didn't you say that this bird was yiur first girlfriend?
Don't expect to be properly over it right away. But do expect that on moving forward with some other girls, you'll be completely over it soon enough. Maybe a year or two.
Just some growing pains. You'll be alright.
anyone that responds to this troll suffering from NAWALT is very f00lish.No. And you dunno that
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.