"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Does it still apply even if you'e exit text was "hit me up if u change ur mind?" Like what if I contact her in three weeks if she still hasn't? I want one more opinion and I promise I'll let this go
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Forget about this and focus on other things? it's hard but you can't bend a human being by force.
 
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I wanna forget about it but I also wanna know the door could still be open one day in spite of that text and that I could be the one to knock on it
 
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I can't forget. My thoughts are torturing me and I can't do my schoolwork or anything for that matter.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Its in place for people who act desperate and who are lazy in their attempts to get other women.

Go date other women and dont worry about her. If you want to shoot her a text in a few weeks then do it.
 
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Two choices, stay no contact and be miserable wondering what you already know or call her up, no text, CALL her up, express how you feel and what you think and receive the bad news immediately and start to deal with it. Unless she is a cluster b who comes and goes she is most likely done if you dont hear from her.
 
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Two choices, stay no contact and be miserable wondering what you already know or call her up, no text, CALL her up, express how you feel and what you think and receive the bad news immediately and start to deal with it. Unless she is a cluster b who comes and goes she is most likely done if you dont hear from her.
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I know this old. Why do you say call instead of text?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There is no rule. You can write in this forum and still be sneaking "behind our backs" texting her. The point is, you told her "if you change your mind, hit me up". In this case, if you want to be a man of your word, go on with your life. Things look and feel ****ty right now, but that will change soon depending on how well you handle this. If you feel low and bad right now, feel it, it's OK. Life has its lows, too. But then, go for it. Not simply women, but everything else.
 
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lizardking82 said:
There is no rule. You can write in this forum and still be sneaking "behind our backs" texting her. The point is, you told her "if you change your mind, hit me up". In this case, if you want to be a man of your word, go on with your life. Things look and feel ****ty right now, but that will change soon depending on how well you handle this. If you feel low and bad right now, feel it, it's OK. Life has its lows, too. But then, go for it. Not simply women, but everything else.
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ugh that message was so ****ing stupid. And just to clear this up, I'm not trying to seek approval here. I'm just voicing my thoughts and if I get some insight, great. I know how I'm coming across but hey I'm online right now and I dunno you guys so I think it's alright...
 
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She didn't hit you up which means she didn't change her mind. The same obsession and desperation that blew it for you before it will blow it for you again. If you need to make the same mistake one more time to realise that then knock yourself out. Something in you obviously needs to nuke this thing for good.
 
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She didn't hit you up which means she didn't change her mind. The same obsession and desperation that blew it for you before it will blow it for you again. If you need to make the same mistake one more time to realise that then knock yourself out. Something in you obviously needs to nuke this thing for good.
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so you think I'm better off leaving it alone? Like in the long run, my chances will be better if there is any?
 
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I think you are better off leaving alone for your sake rather than for hers. Every decision you make has got to be for your sake. When you make the necessary changes to be the best version of yourself, this probably won't be the girl you give two ****s about anyway. With Improvement comes better options.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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B0redandl0nely said:
I wanna forget about it but I also wanna know the door could still be open one day in spite of that text and that I could be the one to knock on it
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she has forgotten about you. She is riding new ****. You need to do the same. Find new women.
 
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deesade said:
Didn't you say that this bird was yiur first girlfriend?

Don't expect to be properly over it right away. But do expect that on moving forward with some other girls, you'll be completely over it soon enough. Maybe a year or two.

Just some growing pains. You'll be alright.
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not getting over her. Sorry. Ever. I ****ed up with her and I'll make it right. I can make her laugh, smile, wet, everything.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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