The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[soulforge]

Think about it like this. When you are sick, there is a virus in your body. What is the only way to get better? All traces of the virus need to be eliminated.

By not blocking her, you leave traces of the virus in you, which can multiply and spread, affecting you physically and mentally. The body is directly tied to the mind. The anxiety that starts in the mind will manifest physically in your body, and her presence in your life, even through digital means, is enough to do this.

You did the right thing, I was in your shoes before and blocking was the correct decision. It allowed me to move on, meet other women, improve my life.

Great analogy. And actually the only way you can move on.

Every reminant of that person must be purged from your life.

 

[Foe]

Day 2:
Got a email (blocked but still see it in spam) with a bunch of explicate pictures asking me to come over. I ignored it but then she email pleading with me to call her.

So I do (/facepalm). She tells me she loves me etc etc, wants me to come over for one night. I ask her if shes able to tell the truth and she says yes, so I ask, those pictures you sent me you sent to someone else too right. I already know the answer but she confirms that she sent it to a guy she "hasnt even kissed yet and reminds her of me".

I get pissed, hang up and go back to NC. The gall of this chick, basically uses me as a backup for whatever response she didn't receive from the other guy. Ive felt like **** for the past couple of days, apparently she can still effect me, learn from my mistakes keep NC.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Eliminate weakness
Kill the Walt Disney fantasy
Grow up
Live the real life

that’s what I thought today

I’ve lived with her
It was my childhood fantasy. Check!

done that, now it is time to move on

 

[soulforge]

Day 2:
Got a email (blocked but still see it in spam) with a bunch of explicate pictures asking me to come over. I ignored it but then she email pleading with me to call her.

So I do (/facepalm). She tells me she loves me etc etc, wants me to come over for one night. I ask her if shes able to tell the truth and she says yes, so I ask, those pictures you sent me you sent to someone else too right. I already know the answer but she confirms that she sent it to a guy she "hasnt even kissed yet and reminds her of me".

I get pissed, hang up and go back to NC. The gall of this chick, basically uses me as a backup for whatever response she didn't receive from the other guy. Ive felt like **** for the past couple of days, apparently she can still effect me, learn from my mistakes keep NC.

What the hell dude... You must enjoy pain and torturing yourself.

Have you not been going back & forth with this girl for months now?

 

[Foe]

What the hell dude... You must enjoy pain and torturing yourself.

Have you not been going back & forth with this girl for months now?

Years bro........Got that full trauma bond going.

 

[soulforge]

The purpose of No Contact is to permanently move on.

Men try to use NC to get the chick back. Once NC is activated, delete, block and permanently NEXT. No number. No photos. No messages. No emails. No calls. No contact.

100%

Move the F on... You came into this world on your own, you will likely leave on your own.

 

[vato]

You're right. I should be glad. I am glad that she is gone.

I went out tonight with a friend and approached some baddies - explicity chose girls that looked better than my ex. It went really well. Was a bit nervous to approach after not gaming for 3 years. Exchanged some numbers and instas. One girl passed by and told me "what a beauty" - that's a first . Going out tomorrow again and doing the same thing. Feels good after feeling like sh*t for a week.

A little update. Doing better. Was out last weekend at a bar and saw her sister, said hi and kept it moving. I knew her sister was watching me at the bar so I scanned for the best lookin chick and approached her and exchanged insta. I know it's petty but it gave me satisfaction because I know she will tell my ex what she saw.

Guess who contacted me the next day? She wanted to see me and work things out. I told her "nope we're done, you crossed the boundary of no return" and that I would never have a child with someone who has flirted with my friend (she was always pushing for marriage).

Moral of the story, no contact and working on yourself works.

 

[soulforge]

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A little update. Doing better. Was out last weekend at a bar and saw her sister, said hi and kept it moving. I knew her sister was watching me at the bar so I scanned for the best lookin chick and approached her and exchanged insta. I know it's petty but it gave me satisfaction because I know she will tell my ex what she saw.

Guess who contacted me the next day? She wanted to see me and work things out. I told her "nope we're done, you crossed the boundary of no return" and that I would never have a child with someone who has flirted with my friend (she was always pushing for marriage).

Moral of the story, no contact and working on yourself works.

Weldone man.

Truth is, once it's broken it's broken.

Wether she dumped you, or you dumped her because of her behaviour, going back will 99% of the time fail.

I especially would never got back with an ex who has been piped down by only god knows how many other men.

 

[Foe]

I know it's petty but it gave me satisfaction because I know she will tell my ex what she saw.

I dont think thats petty at all, good move as far as Im concerned with the expected results but you stood your ground. Perfect play.

 

[soulforge]

I dont think thats petty at all, good move as far as Im concerned with the expected results but you stood your ground. Perfect play.

I don't think it's petty either.

Do you guys realise how many women will dump a dude, break his heart & within days begin posting pics of herself on social media having an amazing fun time.. laughing, drinking, partying, knowing very well that the dude she has only just dumped will likely see her social.

They don't care bro.. Neither should you.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

And you don't think women haven't had d*cks in them before you met them???

Some men will say stuff like "No fue en tu año, no te hace daño". Im not saying I agree, but most members here basically live by that.

 

[soulforge]

And you don't think women haven't had d*cks in them before you met them???

You been drinking? Any point in what you are stating & what relevence does that have to my point regarding.. they don't give a fuk.. neither should you give a fuk.

 

[soulforge]

I agree with you that they don't give a f*ck. You always tell everybody on here that you don't want exes after they have had d*cks in them after they have been with you but she had tons of d*cks in her before you so what's the difference?

Huge difference.. Once she has left you, and gone off and got diked down by Tyrone, Jamal, Chad, They all jizzed down her throat.. Rearranged her guts. Do you really want to kiss that mouth again?

But you're missing the biggest problem... This is bad new for you Hacker.

There is a very high probability that once your chick dumps you, the next dude she had sex with, he had a much bigger dik than you, he fuked her better than you ever did, he made her eyes roll back into the back of her head.. He was bigger and more muscular than you & was able to throw her around & pin her down much more effectively than you ever could.

Now add to this, that she left you in the face place, more likely because she lost feelings.. Do you really want to compete with Tyrone if she ever came back to you?

She would never feel the same way about you again, after Tyrone ruined her..

This is why you never take an ex back, because she probably experienced things that you will never be able to compete with or she will never feel the same way with you again.

 

[soulforge]

What an erotic female fan fiction…now do the version when you are the actor

You found this erotic. Very worrying & telling about you.

 

[vato]

Weldone man.

Truth is, once it's broken it's broken.

Wether she dumped you, or you dumped her because of her behaviour, going back will 99% of the time fail.

I especially would never got back with an ex who has been piped down by only god knows how many other men.

She's the one who dumped me after all the BS that happened. I'd rather drag my balls through broken glass than go back to her. Going out tonight and tomorrow to keep this momentum going.

 

[colouredpainting761]

Day 37

Had a LDR for around 9 months and we did not officially end it but she was taking longer and longer to respond to my messages for around 2 weeks, blaming it on “family”. She started playing up so i just said ok cool and goodnight. That was it. My intuition has turned out to be right, but it sucks. Was just going to message to see how she was but I know I’ll just get some cold ass response like “why are you messaging me” or just no response at all, so **** her. Women tend to get over break ups MUCH faster than men.

 

[Barrister]

Day 37

Had a LDR for around 9 months and we did not officially end it but she was taking longer and longer to respond to my messages for around 2 weeks, blaming it on “family”. She started playing up so i just said ok cool and goodnight. That was it. My intuition has turned out to be right, but it sucks. Was just going to message to see how she was but I know I’ll just get some cold ass response like “why are you messaging me” or just no response at all, so **** her. Women tend to get over break ups MUCH faster than men.

Women get over breakups much easier than men because women begin the detachment process during the relationship. Generally, they begin "breaking up" with you in their minds months before the actual breakup occurrs. Men aren't wired like this. Men see the break-up conversation as the "end" and they are then recovering for the next number of months after that point. Women, however, would have gone through that process months before. It is why they can seem so cold in how easily they get over you. You are pouring out your heart to her while she has already moved on and begun fantasizing about her co-worker (or began banging them even).

Keep this in mind for your future LTRs. It will save you a load of grief if you can recognize this dynamic at play during the relationship and know it is time to begin protecting yourself so you aren't caught with your pants down.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Women get over breakups much easier than men because women begin the detachment process during the relationship. Generally, they begin "breaking up" with you in their minds months before the actual breakup occurrs. Men aren't wired like this. Men see the break-up conversation as the "end" and they are then recovering for the next number of months after that point. Women, however, would have gone through that process months before. It is why they can seem so cold in how easily they get over you. You are pouring out your heart to her while she has already moved on and begun fantasizing about her co-worker (or began banging them even).

Keep this in mind for your future LTRs. It will save you a load of grief if you can recognize this dynamic at play during the relationship and know it is time to begin protecting yourself so you aren't caught with your pants down.

@Barrister do you think believe or agree with the whole dumpers timeline concept? The idea that the girls only experience the pain, dumped men experience way, months later when the repercussions of their actions hit them. Or no? (Inversely, dumped men experience pain upfront but are better months later).

 

[Barrister]

@Barrister do you think believe or agree with the whole dumpers timeline concept? The idea that the girls only experience the pain, dumped men experience way, months later when the repercussions of their actions hit them. Or no? (Inversely, dumped men experience pain upfront but are better months later).

No - I don't buy that. I do think women will sometimes have "seller's remorse" if you will if the man is doing extremely well after the breakup and begin to put out feelers to him to see if he still cares about her. Maybe a bit more than just bread-crumbing. But the same pain the man feels? Not even close. Their female brain has almost fully detached at that juncture.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Keep this in mind for your future LTRs. It will save you a load of grief if you can recognize this dynamic at play during the relationship and know it is time to begin protecting yourself so you aren't caught with your pants down.

I think there is a lot of truth in what you say based on my own personal experiences in LTR. Reflecting back on some of my break ups over the recent years. In hindsight, some of my exes started to look for exit signs and were slowly detaching themselves but I was oblivious to it at the time. For example, one ex I dated was constantly looking for signs that I was not good enough for her. Increasingly, she started to keep score only to use them as reasons to break up ignoring all the good. Another ex, began reading into personality disorders 1 month before dumping me and trying to fit me into one because I was a more confident person. Whatever amalgamations they made, when it was happening and underway I wrote it off, downplayed it or ignored it. But in hindsight, it was so clear, the detachment had begun and they were looking for the impetus to exit. Your words are gold.