The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Murk]

I can't stop thinking about my ex. I had some girl from tinder come over yesterday at 7pm after a booted out the girl I'm seeing at 11:30am.

Yeah it felt good at the time, but I am thinking about my ex even more now. Should I have been alone instead of chasing women? Or is what I'm doing the right thing? I have slept with 5 different women in the 7 weeks since I've seen my ex. I can't help wonder what she's up to, I've spied on her twitter and Insta and seen her crap life - she's not up to much. Still want her though. I need to stop spying on her social media and I need to keep meeting other women.

 

[QuadDeuces]

Thank your ex (while NC) forgive your ex, forgive yourself.

Then you realise youre still you, youre still whole.

Then instead of thinking about that pink elephant you start thinking about a new blue elephant.

A workout regiment.
A travel you want to take.
A language you want to learn.
Business oportunity
Whatever

Whatever you do dont try to take “revenge” on your ex, you only make yourself suffer. Just thank her and move on, alpha males accept the decay of things in life, you cant hold on to nothing. The future is bright.
Also wish your exes future to be bright.

 

[Murk]

I needed to read that today. I dreamed about her last night, in my dream she found out I was stalking her social media and we laughed about it.

I have the tinder girl from Sunday night coming over ot my place after work today.

I'm going to stick to working out and concentrating on work. When I start drinking and being careless, it all goes to sh!t.

 

[Rapport101]

Day 9 no contact. Feeling better already. ****ing psycho ***** made me crazy with her betrayal. Now I’m suffocating her out of my mind, and I can get back to living the GoodLife!!! Sooo excited to get this mental garbage out of my head, and fill it with something better. She still tries to contact me though. I’ve been closing up all the cracks. Have her emails directed straight into the trash and removed the ability to open the trash from my phone. Blocked all her numbers as well. So excited to feel good again!

 

[Rapport101]

Girl keeps emailing me, even though I’ve blocked her on everything else, goes into my trash folder. Today I break no contact and respond. I said that I’m seeing someone else and it would be inappropriate for me to continue talking to her. (We broke up just over two weeks ago). I told her that I wish her the best in all her future endeavours. She then responds that she’s pregnant with the new guy’s baby and that they’re going to bite the bullet and make it work. I laughed to myself. I’m so glad that isn’t me.

 

[Murk]

I was very ****ed up on drink and drugs friday after work/saturday morning and I emailed my ex I miss her.

11pm Friday I end up leaving the chick I was with and going home, this Australian girl who I have made threads about, calls me to come over and do drugs. I leave at 10am Saturday morning - no sleep, very drunk. I get home and email my ex saying I miss her!!!! FFS! I did so well and I've gone and blown it. I haven't even checked my personal email all weekend out of fear. She prob hasn't/won't reply anyway but I feel like I'm so weak now.

Fvck it, doesn't matter - I'm not gonna be seeing her again anyway.

 

[TBG]

Heard through the grapevine that the new guy has moved in. They've been officially dating for 6 weeks.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Heard through the grapevine that the new guy has moved in. They've been officially dating for 6 weeks.

Moved in after 6 weeks? WTF, people seem to move in so damn fast now, I'm sure it'll all go down the toilet with that kind of rush, so take some solace from that.

 

[TBG]

Yeah I can't get my head round it. Even when the honeymoon period has been in full effect the thought of moving in with them so soon has never crossed my mind. Still barely know the person.

 

[Murk]

Were you living with her? Maybe she just wants that closeness/bond to fill the void you left and wants that done ASAP.

She's obviously not the smartest tool in the box.

 

[TBG]

Not even close to moving in with her. Only dated for three or so months and it would've still been a hard no if she asked towards the end. Even at three months I'd argue you don't really know the other person.

She's definitely trying to fill a void. She works from home so doesn't interact with others daily. She's pushed most of her friends away, her closest one lives hours away and not to sound too big headed, but she's lost me from her life.

Oh well I'm sure that guy is in for an eye opener when he sees the scale of her depression. She hid it well when she was still with me and lining him up. She can't hide it now though.

 

[European-DJ]

Day 40?

As planned, I moved to a new country to finish my studies. Guess what happens? An EXACT copy of her ends up in my team for a case completion. Same eyes, same facial features, same look, height, body, everything. An exact copy.. obviously this threw me off and I managed to do the most embarrassing presentation I’ve ever done in my whole life, needless to say that the my team lost a sure win haha..


This is the first time I’ve missed the girl since leaving. Interestingly enough, I’m not missing the sex / the kisses / the closeness, I’m actually missing our friendship.

 

[Murk]

Day 40?

As planned, I moved to a new country to finish my studies. Guess what happens? An EXACT copy of her ends up in my team for a case completion. Same eyes, same facial features, same look, height, boy, everything. An exact copy.. obviously this through me off and I managed to do the most embarrassing presentation I’ve ever done in my whole life, needless to say that the my team lost a sure win haha..


Th is is the first time I’ve missed the girl since leaving. Interestingly enough, I’m not missing the sex / the kisses / the closeness, I’m actually missing our friendship.

 

[European-DJ]

Yup... imagine how I felt when I looked up from my laptop and saw her hahha

 

[Die Hard]

DAY 26

Thinking about her a lot, mostly about fights we had, re-living them in my head... The thoughts cause a great deal of anger in me and this unsettles me.... But I can't get them out of my head, it's like I'm being bombarded with these thoughts constantly...

Oh well, guess it's a neccesary part of the process. There's these stages you go through in a grieving process: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance... I guess I'm in the Anger phase

Not gonna contact her, though... And NOT going back to her!


Murkserious, stay strong man. If you're drunk and feel like contacting her, visit this thread and write down what you're feeling at that moment. It'll help you to NOT give in to the urge and we'll talk you out of it!

 

[dude99]

Day 40?

As planned, I moved to a new country to finish my studies. Guess what happens? An EXACT copy of her ends up in my team for a case completion. Same eyes, same facial features, same look, height, body, everything. An exact copy.. obviously this threw me off and I managed to do the most embarrassing presentation I’ve ever done in my whole life, needless to say that the my team lost a sure win haha..


This is the first time I’ve missed the girl since leaving. Interestingly enough, I’m not missing the sex / the kisses / the closeness, I’m actually missing our friendship.

She may be the same or similar in many many ways, but you can feel better knowing she doesn't have your ex's brain.

 

[Die Hard]

Contacted her via short message after about 40 days of no contact between us to send her & her mother wishes for international womans day

Wow...

 

[Die Hard]

I'm sorry man, I'm here to support you but that also means I should point out your mistakes when you appear blind for them...

Your ex rolled over your heart with a bulldozer... She was a hypocrite feminist, always ready to belittle men, always picking fights with you about her hypocrite feminist ideas... (note that these are all your own words!)

So here you are, healing from the breakup, and you decide to congratulate her with INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY

Now if you don't want to see how much of a mistake that is and how much you are making a fool of yourself with this action, I give up....

 

[Paradiddle]

DAY 40

Contacted her via short message after about 40 days of no contact between us to send her & her mother wishes for international womans day.

Bad decision.

 

[Paradiddle]

I came back to this thread to thank each and everyone of you who have helped me get over my ex girlfriend, directly on indirectly . I now realize that No Contact means NO FRIGGIN' CONTACT, no matter what. I realized that I should not wait for her to call/text me and wonder if she is thinking of me or the times we had spent or the awesome sex we had or any **** that involved both of us. It has been 21 days I have been NC since she broke up with me. She was crying on that day and said she wanted to break up with me and what did I do? I acted like any 'MAN' would do and said that if that's her decision I am okay with that and walked out from her life then and there. Didn't even utter a single word after that and I feel really good about it now.

It was a year since her younger brother had passed away and her medical examinations for her studies are coming soon but I did not bother to call/text her and I am not going to do that on any occasion. I remember someone here in this thread saying that NC is not to get your ex back but to heal and I totally agree with him. I sometimes remember her and the good times we spent together (you know all that intimate **** and sex) but I am healing now and don't give a rat's ass about my past with her now. I have been drinking and smoking occasionally with my friends and celebrating life and our friendship but not grieving about my loss. Feels sooo soooo goooood. I obviously remember her at times and have the urge to call her but that's nothing I can't handle. That's what differentiates a man and a woman.

Guys, do not give up. Fvcking no way you should! Take this advice from a 30 year old . Know that there are people who have gone through worst situations than yours and they have done pretty well. I have so much to say but I don't know what to say at this moment. Just know that, things will be okay until and unless you fvcking give up. Be a man. Period.