Thank you so much. I know that if I had another girl blowing me regularly and treating me like a god (how my ex used to treat me), I wouldn't even think of her at all!Konduit said:Spax, I've had the same feelings, so I can relate. It doesn't matter what she thinks, not one bit. What matters is your own image of yourself. You are not the you of back then - you are not defined by who you were in the past. You can change.
Take it as a learning experience, understand what you did wrong, resolve to try and avoid making the same mistakes again, and then move on! Don't dwell on it any longer than you need to.
A few months back, when I was struggling with similar issues, someone told me this: "Date lots of women. You won't care about what one girl thinks or have a childish need to set things straight with past loves." Also, "The more you try to fix the past, the more you can ruin it."
Hudpes (from this forum) also said this to me a little while ago when I was struggling with similar issues: "Why do you want her to think highly of you? It doesn't matter what she thinks of you, what matters is what you think of yourself and she's got nothing to do with it."
Roissy also said this on oneitis (man, I'm a quoting machine today): "Oneitis will kill your soul. That hot blonde you obsess over? Stop doing that. The world is filled with cute girls. Go out and mingle with them. Trust me on this, once you are experiencing the incomparable joy of a cute girl giving you all her love, you’ll forget about that one girl you used to think you couldn’t live without. You’ll forget allll about her."
One of the themes here that we're seeing is to have an abundance mentality. There are many girls out there who will give you just as, if not more fulfilling relationships than your ex.
Keep moving forward, onwards and upwards.
Some friends advise though "It's too soon to move onto another relationship etc etc." and "have fun just by yourself". But I know that if I had a new girl, my ex would be the last thing on my mind. :kick: