The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Yorkex]

You messed up bro , good thing is 7 years is a long time and she will always have a place in her heart for you.

Today is the first month anniversary of no contact for me.
At the beginning I messed up just like you but mine wasn't as beta as you.

I missed her but I called and asked her to stop talking to my grandma because she always called her to try and get me mad.
Then she asked how I'm doing and I said I can't talk right now I have work to attend to.

After that I went off every social media for a month , deleted her number , skype , all the pictures , threw away gifts and got a new phone number. (Didn't give it to mutual friends)

I came out online today on Facebook and one of her friends asked me where I have been and how I'm doing ...read it and didn't answer. Posted a picture of my lunch , bunch of girls liked it and luckily one of my ex **** body's asked why she wasn't invited , I replied you are next .

Almost back to normal again ! So spax delete her number ...
Pick a a hobby as well it helps a lot ! I started reading a few books ..takes your mind of reality a bit

 

[spax]

Did she respond?
How many hours of no response has it been now?

6 hours so far. No response. She is more alpha than me. Fuuuark. I didn't even text with the hope of getting back. Just didn't want to cut off our connection completely. I have this fear of her going off and having this successful life while I wallow away. I heard from mutual friends that she is already planning to this amazing adventurous holiday and making career changes.

FML FML FML

 

[Yorkex]

6 hours so far. No response. She is more alpha than me. Fuuuark. I didn't even text with the hope of getting back. Just didn't want to cut off our connection completely. I have this fear of her going off and having this successful life while I wallow away. I heard from mutual friends that she is already planning to this amazing adventurous holiday and making career changes.

FML FML FML

STOP talking to mutual friends to check up on her !
No wonder you are not making better improvements , you are doing basic stuff guys here warned you not to do.
GET RID OF EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE that reminds you of her ...after a month you can talk to them but not to check up on her. When they bring news tell them you are not interested , if you are so scared she is going to be better than you then CHALLENGE your self to be better than her. Get fit , get a better job ..don't just sit and stalk her life ...think of it as she is GONE , build a new start if she comes she comes if not its not the end of the world.

 

[mikey2012]

Fuuuuucking hell boys. I hang my head in shame. I broke the NC rule after about 47 days.

Woke up today with the feels HARD and texted some soppy message like "Hey, I'm sure you're in town now. Hope you're having a relaxing and enjoyable time. "

No response.

Kill me fuuuuucking now. I am beyond beta. Fuuuck!

No wonder she dumped YOU.

 

[zorg198]

Entered the third week of NC. well i can say i am much better as i was in the start. still thinking about her but lost the panic if she goes out with someone or meeting other boys. i can't control it , like i can't control the weather. so keep and be strong guys. this web site gives me so much good feeling .

 

[Yorkex]

Entered the third week of NC. well i can say i am much better as i was in the start. still thinking about her but lost the panic if she goes out with someone or meeting other boys. i can't control it , like i can't control the weather. so keep and be strong guys. this web site gives me so much good feeling .

Keep it up man , mix it in by talking to some girls ...even if you don't plan to hook up or be in a relationship. Build up some extra confidence on the side

 

[spax]

Look, after the I broke the NC and she didn't respond - it hurt. But it angered me more than anything that she would be such a biiitch.

I now have the desire to be an absolutely asssshole and ruin her social life and relationship with others.

Over the years she has told me so much gossip about her friends and family, including those who have cheated on their current partners or secretly hate others, that all it would take would be a couple of Facebook messages and the war would begin.

I figure that the ship as already sunken, it can't go any lower. I may as well be the assshole she told everyone I was.

She also owes me $5000 that she has borrowed from me, so I figured I might send her mother a text asking her to remind her daughter to pay me back. The mother will probably have a break down if she hears this as she hates people borrowing money.

Thoughts?

 

[Yorkex]

Sometimes we simply can't learn the lessons others have learned, we have to go through it ourselves, and suffer....for the lesson to sink in. Welcome to the club You were told, and told.....but had to find out on your own. Fair enough. It is a lesson you won't soon forget. This may be the start of astronomical growth for you. More in bold below

5000$ is a lot BUT if you can life without it ( as in pay your bills and still do things on time ) Let that be your GIFT to her.
Because you are going to ask her for the money and chances are she can't pay it up front right away ...it will be a back and forth action that will still leave you invested because you clearly still want her.

Honestly , just listen to the rest of the advice giving here. MOVE ON with a positive view ...I will personally guarantee you a better life if you commit to it for just 2 weeks.

I woke up today laughing at my actions and my situation in general and it's only been 1 month of committed work.

 

[GS750]

Look, after the I broke the NC and she didn't respond - it hurt. But it angered me more than anything that she would be such a biiitch.

I now have the desire to be an absolutely asssshole and ruin her social life and relationship with others.

Over the years she has told me so much gossip about her friends and family, including those who have cheated on their current partners or secretly hate others, that all it would take would be a couple of Facebook messages and the war would begin.

I figure that the ship as already sunken, it can't go any lower. I may as well be the assshole she told everyone I was.

She also owes me $5000 that she has borrowed from me, so I figured I might send her mother a text asking her to remind her daughter to pay me back. The mother will probably have a break down if she hears this as she hates people borrowing money.

Thoughts?

Spax Bro, I'm gonna hit you with a little bit of tough love here...since I'm familiar with your situation and have followed your posts on this chick pretty much since the beginning. Lets recap shall we? This girl:

1. Moved several hours away from you in the midst of a 7 year relationship. That right there should have signaled to you that your relationship was pretty much about to end.
2. Started acting distant and blowing you off. Another clue.
3. Started seeing a herb named "Dave" while still technically in a relationship with you. Starting to see a pattern here?
4. Blew you off when you drove hours to see her to try and amend things. Then she blew you...pity BJ but I digress...
5. Wouldn't let you stay at her place and threatened to call the cops on you.
6. After weeks of No Contact on your part, which was awesome, contacted you and told you she was coming to town and wanted to "meet and talk".
7. You kept it together for what 47(ish) days? Then the b*tch comes to town and you text her in a friendly manner and she didn't even bother to reply to you. So she basically said "fvck you, Spax".
8. You had over a fvcking month of NC and you broke NC, basically handed her your balls and she knows this. Not to mention you are back at day 1 of NC which sucks in my opinion. You had the power man, and you threw it away with one text message. Don't you wish you still had that power? I know you do.

Now you need to do the following; Delete this cheating wh0re on all platforms. Cell, email, Facebook, twitter, instagram, snapchat....everything. Don't take the time to ruin her social life. Don't badmouth her. Don't do a damn thing. It shows that you still care. DISAPPEAR FROM HER LIFE LIKE YOU WERE NEVER THERE.

You, my friend, need to go back to page fvcking one of this thread...we're at page 359!!! Read all the posts from guys who were in pretty much the same situation. Read about their experiences and what they did and how they coped with a girl who dumped them and moved on or jumped on another guys d*ck. It's filled with stories of cheating, arguments, lies, manipulation, heartbreak, breaking up, getting back together, girls playing games, girls stringing guys along, girls with BPD fvcking with guys heads, girls running back to their ex, girls having guys arrested, girls refusing to let guys see their kids, everything under the sun. I've been doing just that after going through a fvcked up situation myself recently. It's helped a lot. Read Jariel's posts especially. They are filled with wisdom. Get yourself together man. And if you get the urge to text or call this wretched wh0re ex of yours, post here instead. Good luck Spax.

 

[spax]

Spax Bro, I'm gonna hit you with a little bit of tough love here...since I'm familiar with your situation and have followed your posts on this chick pretty much since the beginning. Lets recap shall we? This girl:

1. Moved several hours away from you in the midst of a 7 year relationship. That right there should have signaled to you that your relationship was pretty much about to end.
2. Started acting distant and blowing you off. Another clue.
3. Started seeing a herb named "Dave" while still technically in a relationship with you. Starting to see a pattern here?
4. Blew you off when you drove hours to see her to try and amend things. Then she blew you...pity BJ but I digress...
5. Wouldn't let you stay at her place and threatened to call the cops on you.
6. After weeks of No Contact on your part, which was awesome, contacted you and told you she was coming to town and wanted to "meet and talk".
7. You kept it together for what 47(ish) days? Then the b*tch comes to town and you text her in a friendly manner and she didn't even bother to reply to you. So she basically said "fvck you, Spax".
8. You had over a fvcking month of NC and you broke NC, basically handed her your balls and she knows this. Not to mention you are back at day 1 of NC which sucks in my opinion. You had the power man, and you threw it away with one text message. Don't you wish you still had that power? I know you do.

Now you need to do the following; Delete this cheating wh0re on all platforms. Cell, email, Facebook, twitter, instagram, snapchat....everything. Don't take the time to ruin her social life. Don't badmouth her. Don't do a damn thing. It shows that you still care. DISAPPEAR FROM HER LIFE LIKE YOU WERE NEVER THERE.

You, my friend, need to go back to page fvcking one of this thread...we're at page 359!!! Read all the posts from guys who were in pretty much the same situation. Read about their experiences and what they did and how they coped with a girl who dumped them and moved on or jumped on another guys d*ck. It's filled with stories of cheating, arguments, lies, manipulation, heartbreak, breaking up, getting back together, girls playing games, girls stringing guys along, girls with BPD fvcking with guys heads, girls running back to their ex, girls having guys arrested, girls refusing to let guys see their kids, everything under the sun. I've been doing just that after going through a fvcked up situation myself recently. It's helped a lot. Read Jariel's posts especially. They are filled with wisdom. Get yourself together man. And if you get the urge to text or call this wretched wh0re ex of yours, post here instead. Good luck Spax.

Yep. Thank you for the support brother. You've been really helpful and wise. I am back at day 1, and hopefully that will last forever. Deleted her off Facebook, deleted her number, everything.

In a way I actually feel glad that she did not reply to me because it gave me clarity and got rid of the last bit of hope that i had left for the relationship. I Before, I was just itching for a chance to hear from her, thinking she just wanted space, but now my mindset is "What a fuuuucking biiiitch".

I now do not want to hear from her because I know how cold and heartless she has become and it is really unappealing and unattractive.

It's like I threw out the fishing line to see what I could catch and I didn't pull back anything, so now I'm going to find a new pond to fish in.

 

[mikey2012]

Look, after the I broke the NC and she didn't respond - it hurt. But it angered me more than anything that she would be such a biiitch.

I now have the desire to be an absolutely asssshole and ruin her social life and relationship with others.

Over the years she has told me so much gossip about her friends and family, including those who have cheated on their current partners or secretly hate others, that all it would take would be a couple of Facebook messages and the war would begin.

I figure that the ship as already sunken, it can't go any lower. I may as well be the assshole she told everyone I was.

She also owes me $5000 that she has borrowed from me, so I figured I might send her mother a text asking her to remind her daughter to pay me back. The mother will probably have a break down if she hears this as she hates people borrowing money.

Thoughts?

You are going through normal feelings after a break up. You can never trust a woman. They have no integrity . She acting as if you do not exist. Do the same for her. Your reactions of getting back at her are normal but what's the point? To get revenge? Just pretend she don't exist. As for the money you can try and get it back but I wouldn't . Just makes you look bitter and spiteful. Let her have it. I tell you this ... If you were decent throughout the relationship fate will have far worse in store for her than you can imagine . I know this ... Just forget the bitxh ...remember the golden rule "always be willing to walk away". If you can't you will always be someone's bitxh .

 

[GS750]

You'll hear from her. Count on it. It may be a week, a month, or 6 months. But you will hear from her. But keep No Contact for now and get the power back. Disappear. If down the line you want to talk to her then you make the decision if she reaches out. Because it's very likely that she will for the ego boost. But get your sh*t together first. You may find that a few months from now, after you get your head right, that you don't even care to speak to her at all. Keep your head up buddy.

 

[spax]

You'll hear from her. Count on it. It may be a week, a month, or 6 months. But you will hear from her. But keep No Contact for now and get the power back. Disappear. If down the line you want to talk to her then you make the decision if she reaches out. Because it's very likely that she will for the ego boost. But get your sh*t together first. You may find that a few months from now, after you get your head right, that you don't even care to speak to her at all. Keep your head up buddy.

Do you think I should delete her friends and family of FB?

 

[YeeZus]

Do you think I should delete her friends and family of FB?

Why take the pain of deleting someone from your profile. Why don't you deactivate your account for a month or so? Work on yourself, get a ripped body and be back with a bang. Get your sh!t together brother in few months you will be glad that b!tch dumped you BECAUSE YOU DESERVE BETTER

 

[mikey2012]

Do you think I should delete her friends and family of FB?

Deleting makes you look butthurt. But if you aren't strong enough delete

 

[spax]

Deleting makes you look butthurt. But if you aren't strong enough delete

Who cares how it makes you look. If it's over, it's over and you should not CARE what they think or how you look to them.

Plus, there is now ZERO chance that I'd ever take her back so it does not matter at all.

Anyway, deleted her and some of my buddies deleted her too after I told what a biiitch she'd been.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Who cares how it makes you look. If it's over, it's over and you should not CARE what they think or how you look to them.

Plus, there is now ZERO chance that I'd ever take her back so it does not matter at all.

Anyway, deleted her and some of my buddies deleted her too after I told what a biiitch she'd been.

NOW you're getting the hang of it. Good job

 

[mikey2012]

NOW you're getting the hang of it. Good job

He will be back in a few days saying how he broke no contact again..

 

[Darrenez]

Been 3 months of solid no contact (this time around), avoiding contacting her on her birthday and I won't contact her over Xmas even if she contacts me. .I did want to ask advice though on here over something..

I've met some really hot woman from tinder. I mean super hot body etc. Seems like a nice person too. Problem is , she has 3 kids. I'm going to go on a date with her. We have been charting a lot on the phone. Thing is, I am not fussed about being her bf , I'm just looking for some companionship and to help me move on. Thing is , I feel a bit guilty about not wanting anything serious about being with her. Would you guys still go out a few times with her? I'm not sure what she wants me from me, hopefully she just wants the same , she seems really keen though. Any advice please?

 

[Yorkex]

Been 3 months of solid no contact (this time around), avoiding contacting her on her birthday and I won't contact her over Xmas even if she contacts me. .I did want to ask advice though on here over something..

I've met some really hot woman from tinder. I mean super hot body etc. Seems like a nice person too. Problem is , she has 3 kids. I'm going to go on a date with her. We have been charting a lot on the phone. Thing is, I am not fussed about being her bf , I'm just looking for some companionship and to help me move on. Thing is , I feel a bit guilty about not wanting anything serious about being with her. Would you guys still go out a few times with her? I'm not sure what she wants me from me, hopefully she just wants the same , she seems really keen though. Any advice please?

I would usually agree that **** her and use her to get over your breakup but logically think about it , 3 children she is already going through a lot right now.

What I will personally do is take the honest road.
" I am not really rushing into anything right now , just focused in work and looking for a person I can relax with".
Remember even if she friend zones you its okay because you can still chill and stuff. Maybe she will even understand and appreciate your honesty , you guys hang out you meet her kids and take it slow you night even hit the ***** on the side.

Nothing wrong with building a legit friend ship with her while you talk to a single girl with no kids preferably.
Chances are she is looking for somebody to play daddy and marry again , you don't want to be that guy. Just hang around her at YOUR own time and help her at your own time.

If you managed to sleep with her kudos and if not just keep chatting and build your confidence up but please be straight forward with her when she brings advancement talks.