NYC Dude
Master Don Juan
Keep it simple. Bump.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm the hired hand, and I'm available on AIM more often than Matrix, feel free to run these posts by me as well, and I'll tell Matrix about them. My AIM name is in my signature, so you can tell me.Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded:
Hey guys... Lorenzo asked me to start updating the Bible for now, so... if there are any posts that you recommend I put in the Bible, most of you know where to find me... so let's see some good material guys!
Reloaded: The Series... So to Speak, coming soon.
then tell him about that post up there it's a must read.Originally posted by whatsupwiddat:
I'm the hired hand, and I'm available on AIM more often than Matrix, feel free to run these posts by me as well, and I'll tell Matrix about them. My AIM name is in my signature, so you can tell me.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DoneOriginally posted by MaDsKaTeR212:
then tell him about that post up there it's a must read.
yayOriginally posted by whatsupwiddat:
DoneMatrix will add it ASAP.![]()
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I suggested this to Matrix about 2 weeks back, i think the same thing as well...Originally posted by MaDsKaTeR212:
hey guys i was just looking at the old DJ Bible (http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000512.html) and i noticed the format is a lot easier to read than this is, it has less text in between and i think it would be better if the HSDJB was formatted this way too.
just a suggestion.
if the glossary was a post it would have to be constantly bumped, and it's at the very bottom so i dunno.Originally posted by whatsupwiddat:
Matrix isnt online WAY ENOUGH. But I like the new formatting. here is an idea though: how about the glossary is a post instead of being on it? Or if thats not a good idea, maybe the glossary shouldnt look like a paragraph mixed with regular and italic font strewn out randomly.![]()
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[This message has been edited by whatsupwiddat (edited 12-07-2002).]
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.