NYC Dude
Master Don Juan
Keep it simple. Bump.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm the hired hand, and I'm available on AIM more often than Matrix, feel free to run these posts by me as well, and I'll tell Matrix about them. My AIM name is in my signature, so you can tell me.Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded:
Hey guys... Lorenzo asked me to start updating the Bible for now, so... if there are any posts that you recommend I put in the Bible, most of you know where to find me... so let's see some good material guys!
Reloaded: The Series... So to Speak, coming soon.
then tell him about that post up there it's a must read.Originally posted by whatsupwiddat:
I'm the hired hand, and I'm available on AIM more often than Matrix, feel free to run these posts by me as well, and I'll tell Matrix about them. My AIM name is in my signature, so you can tell me.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DoneOriginally posted by MaDsKaTeR212:
then tell him about that post up there it's a must read.
yayOriginally posted by whatsupwiddat:
DoneMatrix will add it ASAP.![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I suggested this to Matrix about 2 weeks back, i think the same thing as well...Originally posted by MaDsKaTeR212:
hey guys i was just looking at the old DJ Bible (http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000512.html) and i noticed the format is a lot easier to read than this is, it has less text in between and i think it would be better if the HSDJB was formatted this way too.
just a suggestion.
if the glossary was a post it would have to be constantly bumped, and it's at the very bottom so i dunno.Originally posted by whatsupwiddat:
Matrix isnt online WAY ENOUGH. But I like the new formatting. here is an idea though: how about the glossary is a post instead of being on it? Or if thats not a good idea, maybe the glossary shouldnt look like a paragraph mixed with regular and italic font strewn out randomly.![]()
Two.Six.Six.
[This message has been edited by whatsupwiddat (edited 12-07-2002).]
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.