NYC Dude
Master Don Juan
Keep it simple. Bump.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm the hired hand, and I'm available on AIM more often than Matrix, feel free to run these posts by me as well, and I'll tell Matrix about them. My AIM name is in my signature, so you can tell me.Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded:
Hey guys... Lorenzo asked me to start updating the Bible for now, so... if there are any posts that you recommend I put in the Bible, most of you know where to find me... so let's see some good material guys!
Reloaded: The Series... So to Speak, coming soon.
then tell him about that post up there it's a must read.Originally posted by whatsupwiddat:
I'm the hired hand, and I'm available on AIM more often than Matrix, feel free to run these posts by me as well, and I'll tell Matrix about them. My AIM name is in my signature, so you can tell me.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DoneOriginally posted by MaDsKaTeR212:
then tell him about that post up there it's a must read.
yayOriginally posted by whatsupwiddat:
DoneMatrix will add it ASAP.![]()
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I suggested this to Matrix about 2 weeks back, i think the same thing as well...Originally posted by MaDsKaTeR212:
hey guys i was just looking at the old DJ Bible (http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000512.html) and i noticed the format is a lot easier to read than this is, it has less text in between and i think it would be better if the HSDJB was formatted this way too.
just a suggestion.
if the glossary was a post it would have to be constantly bumped, and it's at the very bottom so i dunno.Originally posted by whatsupwiddat:
Matrix isnt online WAY ENOUGH. But I like the new formatting. here is an idea though: how about the glossary is a post instead of being on it? Or if thats not a good idea, maybe the glossary shouldnt look like a paragraph mixed with regular and italic font strewn out randomly.![]()
Two.Six.Six.
[This message has been edited by whatsupwiddat (edited 12-07-2002).]
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.